Coffee is code for... ?

[estelle]

I dislike it when a guy asks me to coffee. I just don't know what his intentions are. A man I had a crush on for the longest time asked me to go have coffee with him. We have seen each other in social settings but never one on one. And that is fine because he used to be married so I did not think anything could come of it. But now he's divorced. He

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[dadi]

In my dating times, I actually preferred coffee "dates"...a more indormal way of talking one on one, of getting to know each other. Not connected to so many expectations and rituals and whatnot.

[howlin_wolf_66]

It's a minefield; I prefer plain-speaking, too.

[missdiane]

I've not actually been on any sort of date for uh...*mathing* oh good grief, nearly 30 years but going out for coffee always seems like a decent way to screen to see if you're compatible and it's worth going on a full date or if it's just worth being friends. I also think it's a far better offer than going out for "drinks."

[estelle]

I actually disagree. With "drinks" I am still not 100% but I think it is more likely that it is a date. And "dinner" even more so. I prefer to be asked if I want to go out on a date. At least I know what I am agreeing to.