Coffee is code for... ?
I dislike it when a guy asks me to coffee. I just don't know what his intentions are. A man I had a crush on for the longest time asked me to go have coffee with him. We have seen each other in social settings but never one on one. And that is fine because he used to be married so I did not think anything could come of it. But now he's divorced. He tells me this in the same email. He also asks me about what I am learning in school because he is in the same industry. Does he want to become closer friends? Does he think this is a date? An informational interview? I would have been thrilled if he asked me out. Terrified but thrilled. As it is I am only terrified.
I associate coffee with work breaks. Maybe a quick chat with a colleague. Not inherently romantic or sexy.
I did not reply to the coffee request. I meet the man some months later and he is dating someone. I am still not sure whether the coffee ask was a date ask.
I feel stupid. Either because we had an opportunity and I let it pass by. Or because I think there was an opportunity when there was in fact no such thing. I dislike it when a guy asks me to coffee.
I associate coffee with work breaks. Maybe a quick chat with a colleague. Not inherently romantic or sexy.
I did not reply to the coffee request. I meet the man some months later and he is dating someone. I am still not sure whether the coffee ask was a date ask.
I feel stupid. Either because we had an opportunity and I let it pass by. Or because I think there was an opportunity when there was in fact no such thing. I dislike it when a guy asks me to coffee.