You ventured. You gained a friend. Maybe it wasn't what you were initially seeking, but it's still a pretty good outcome. Friendships can grow and blossom. They just need tended.
From what you have said, it sounds like Bill has thought a lot about what he has to offer you. By the way, what is it with you and men named Bill? :) You've still got his friendship; you know the boundaries. That's a good thing, right?
Thanks - yes, I seem to wind up enamored with one Bill right after another broken up by an ass who I no longer name. Boundaries and communicating them are definitely good...
I'm glad you and Bill are able to talk with each other so honestly. It makes it easier for you both emotionally. You aren't left not knowing what's really going on. And having a close friendship with him could be very satisfying too.
The friendship is good for certain. It would likely be a little easier if we had not played around the very first time we met and both still are very strongly attracted to one another. If you see my response to Christopher (I did not reply in order on these...), you might get a bit more insight without me being redundant...
Thanks - yes he is out and has been to his immediate family for at least 20 years. His dad is conflicted about Bill being gay, though Bill did introduce his ex-partner to him years back before his dad's stroke. At this point, Bill is not comfortable with me coming over, even as a friend, so I am not pushing back. I am not going to do anything other than let him know I am available to be a friend since he did say that right now he is emotionally barely hanging on and just can not deal with more than that. Trust me - I totally understand that as I have definitely been in those shoes, though under different circumstances for sure.
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