barn owners gone crazy?

[xfortminor]

Today, I was informed that I should sell my horse and quit riding. Who told me this? My barn owner.

Comments

[sabr]

I just want to say good for you. I identify with having no seat. Having been a hunter jumper, and then working at a Saddleseat barn, and then going to Endurance, I have no seat either, lol

[major_ren]

Good for you!

[closedcurtains]

d) I don't learn well from negative input. She tells me, "No! That's not how you do it!" and I learn much better from, "Well, here, have some tips!" Apparently she can't get that through her skull.

This reminds me a lot of my former trainer. A lot of her training involved telling me what I was doing was wrong, instead of helping me get it right. I also noticed she talked about a lot of her students behind their backs while in her office - like making fun of them for each of their bad habits, etc - I often wondered what she said about me. I didn't really notice this as being unusual until I switched to my current trainer who is super positive and never speaks a bad word about anyone. My riding has totally transformed (we've jumped three levels in dressage this summer), and I don't feel like as soon as I leave, I'm going to be talked about for whatever I might have done "wrong" that day. Anyway, I could never go back to the other trainer now!

[thehomicidehoe]

Me too! I went from a coach that would just scream at me what to do (Slow Down being the main one, I rode a hot horse) but neve, EVER, told me HOW to do something, not once, unless I asked her, specifically how, and even then I didn't get much of a response.

No one learns through negativity. Positive is the only way that works!

[harro_der]

Me three. I can probably count on 1 hand the number of times she told me how to do it right. If she told me once, that was it! I never got to be told again. It's really shied me away from getting back into horses!

[animalboything]

Bravo for having the confidence to do that, and I'm shocked you stayed with her after she lied to you about the horse's condition. Also, you have good judgement to not ride a horse like that every day; you'd be cruel to do that in her condition, and if she's just saying 'lean back and lean back more' then she clearly doesn't seem to understand riding with the motion.

Best of luck finding a new barn.

[bella_cheval]

I get almost the same BS from a boarder who I'd love to send up the creek but alas, can't afford it.

I wish you luck in finding a new barn AND a better trainer.