As kind of a follow up to last week's inquiry into how you leave feedback, it seems fitting to also ask: how do you reply to feedback that's left for you
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I take what the person has said in their fb and respond to whatever specific thing(s) they said. Sometimes I'm talky, sometimes not. It seems like fb-ing and replying is how we start to become friends on LJ, so I can be a bit chatty.
That said, if a writer simply replies with a "thank you" to my fb, that's enough to satisfy me. If I leave fb and don't get a reply, that does rub me the wrong way, but everyone misses a comment now and then. If it happens more than once in a row though, I don't leave fb for that person again.
The issue of chat in comments, feedback-related or otherwise, leading to friendships is definitely one of the reasons I feel inadequate in my fb replies. I don't know if that makes sense, but it's definitely one of the reasons I like the chatty replies and wish I could manage them myself.
I don't usually tally whether authors reply to my fb or not, but sometimes there's something I've said that I *want* to hear their reaction to, and those are the replies I notice if they're not forthcoming, because I'm disappointed. I don't want to disappoint other people similarly!
I'm with most of the others, it really depends what the person has said as to how much I say in reply, but generally when I have left f/b, if the author doesn't respond, it's like they don't care that you're reading their story, so a simple thanks is bettter than nothing! Anyway, there's not really a right answer, but obviously saying something is better than nothing!
Yes! (and I'm only responding again now, not to tie you up, but because we seem to be online at the same time and it's easier to talk as if in real time! I do hope you checked for a late gift at lostsquee, btw) Chatting becomes easier as someone already mentioned, when you get to know your readers better and/or if you are LJ friends, I think. Some of us are naturally more chatty than others though... (well, verbal diaorrhea is a problem too, of course... sorry!!!). I just know I'm disappointed if I don't get replies from the suthors, not that I add them up or watch for them, really! I guess I'm more worried when I don't get comments from readers on my fics, but as this is not about that, I won't spout on! (I think I missed your previous post as I'm way behind on flist and only catching up on recent entries or I'll be here forever!)
I guess I'm a chatty feedbacker and a chatty replier, too. I'm a chatty everything-er, when I'm in that kind of mood. You know this already. ;)
I like what ZZ said, that sometimes we get to know people thru fb and find friendships that way. When you friended me back and started leaving fb, I was SO honored, and then you volunteered to beta, and the rest has a happy ending! I know it's sometimes hard to find something to say -- and when it happens to me that's when I just say "thanks" -- but if I really liked it but I just don't have the words, I try to add a ♥ or a hug. I worry that I sometimes overdo it and it doesn't mean as much to the author that way...do you think that's true?
Chatty, insightful feedback (for instance, gemjam's) sometimes gets me unblocked if I'm writing a series, which is what I mostly write. It can give me a different perspective on my own work...just like fb to non-fic posts can. I NEVER resent that; I always appreciate it like whoa. And I appreciate concrit if I know the person basically respects me. I
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I try to add hugs or hearts or smileys in cases of wordlessness, too, but you know I worry that *I* over use those, so...I don't know.
I've also never noted you to have an author's note that was too long. I think I would have said something! But they are out there, I've seen them.
The gift thing, now I'm kind of worried I owe you some thank you notes because you are always doing nice things for me! Does saying thank you count??? I've never considered my fiction to be gifts to other people -- even when it's written for other people, oddly. They're things I felt driven to write, and therefore to post. I've also never thought of the feedback that I leave as a gift to the writer. Maybe more of a thank you note for providing something I enjoyed reading. It's just how it works.
Do I need the nerdy Sawyer glasses after having read all that or do you need them for being such a nerd? The world will never know. ♥
That counts more than anything! It's all that's needed. :)
I commented to someone once that I write fic for me but I post for others. That's why I think of it like I'm giving them a present, because if I didn't want to give them something that would make them happy, I'd just keep it for myself where I can enjoy it and be happy with it all by myself, and not risk the disappointment of people not enjoying it. But yes, you do give "gifts" of feedback, because saying "thank you" is a reciprocal gift. You have Miss Manners' full approval. ;)
I am SUCH a nerd! What does that make Sawyer, though? (Uh, HOT.)
I'm emailing you about future b&b ideas in a minute.
I really haven't posted any stories by LJ (until now), so I hadn't been aware that this was a rule. Is it a rule on ff.net where they now allow you to reply to the comments?
BUt I have to say that as a reviewer, I like the personalized acknowledgement, much as i like to give personalized feedback (when I have the time, which fairly rare). As a writer, well, I prefer giving the generalized sweeping acknowledgement. But that might be due to the time thing as well. *shrugs*
Hm, I don't know. It's definitely a "rule" in my particular little fandom subculture. This may not be the case in others. I haven't posted on ff.net since they changed it so you can reply to comments. It certainly was easier back in the days of the sweeping "thank you to everyone who read and reviewed!" ;)
I know I'm late for this but I was intrigued by the topic and today I had some time to read past comments and add mine... My opinion is aligned with the majority, I think, but I'm posting it here anyway
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I feel the same about that unwritten LJ rule. Sometimes it feels almost forced, like if you post a link and everyone says "cool!" what can you say? Thanks, except it's not yours, you just found the link. But on the whole, yes, it's good to acknowledge it when people are talking to you. :) And it is how we meet new people.
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That said, if a writer simply replies with a "thank you" to my fb, that's enough to satisfy me. If I leave fb and don't get a reply, that does rub me the wrong way, but everyone misses a comment now and then. If it happens more than once in a row though, I don't leave fb for that person again.
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I don't usually tally whether authors reply to my fb or not, but sometimes there's something I've said that I *want* to hear their reaction to, and those are the replies I notice if they're not forthcoming, because I'm disappointed. I don't want to disappoint other people similarly!
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I like what ZZ said, that sometimes we get to know people thru fb and find friendships that way. When you friended me back and started leaving fb, I was SO honored, and then you volunteered to beta, and the rest has a happy ending! I know it's sometimes hard to find something to say -- and when it happens to me that's when I just say "thanks" -- but if I really liked it but I just don't have the words, I try to add a ♥ or a hug. I worry that I sometimes overdo it and it doesn't mean as much to the author that way...do you think that's true?
Chatty, insightful feedback (for instance, gemjam's) sometimes gets me unblocked if I'm writing a series, which is what I mostly write. It can give me a different perspective on my own work...just like fb to non-fic posts can. I NEVER resent that; I always appreciate it like whoa. And I appreciate concrit if I know the person basically respects me. I ( ... )
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I try to add hugs or hearts or smileys in cases of wordlessness, too, but you know I worry that *I* over use those, so...I don't know.
I've also never noted you to have an author's note that was too long. I think I would have said something! But they are out there, I've seen them.
The gift thing, now I'm kind of worried I owe you some thank you notes because you are always doing nice things for me! Does saying thank you count??? I've never considered my fiction to be gifts to other people -- even when it's written for other people, oddly. They're things I felt driven to write, and therefore to post. I've also never thought of the feedback that I leave as a gift to the writer. Maybe more of a thank you note for providing something I enjoyed reading. It's just how it works.
Do I need the nerdy Sawyer glasses after having read all that or do you need them for being such a nerd? The world will never know. ♥
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That counts more than anything! It's all that's needed. :)
I commented to someone once that I write fic for me but I post for others. That's why I think of it like I'm giving them a present, because if I didn't want to give them something that would make them happy, I'd just keep it for myself where I can enjoy it and be happy with it all by myself, and not risk the disappointment of people not enjoying it. But yes, you do give "gifts" of feedback, because saying "thank you" is a reciprocal gift. You have Miss Manners' full approval. ;)
I am SUCH a nerd! What does that make Sawyer, though? (Uh, HOT.)
I'm emailing you about future b&b ideas in a minute.
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BUt I have to say that as a reviewer, I like the personalized acknowledgement, much as i like to give personalized feedback (when I have the time, which fairly rare). As a writer, well, I prefer giving the generalized sweeping acknowledgement. But that might be due to the time thing as well. *shrugs*
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I feel the same about that unwritten LJ rule. Sometimes it feels almost forced, like if you post a link and everyone says "cool!" what can you say? Thanks, except it's not yours, you just found the link. But on the whole, yes, it's good to acknowledge it when people are talking to you. :) And it is how we meet new people.
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