Comments | enlitenedzealot: step by step

enlitenedzealot

step by step

Dec 09, 2011 19:16

So a friend from seminary posted an article about the "Other" folder on Facebook messages. (In short, click messages to the left of your home screen and then click other.) Most of them were just mass emails from pages and celebrities that I follow on facebook. One was from some creeper dude.

But one. One was from my dad's step daughter. I ( Read more... )

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mon_oubliette December 10 2011, 20:53:23 UTC

*online hug*

I understand how that's a hard choice. There are expectations there what with it being your Dad and all and do you want to get back in contact because he wants to send you a holiday card or because you want to have him in your life again. It's also that hard place of being weird-ed out your "step-sister" made contact before him. I'd say it's up to what you can handle and what you want.

enlitenedzealot December 11 2011, 05:02:37 UTC

I'm lucky in that the only expectation I'm worrying about is my expectation of how I would act if I were the person I really want to be. I want to be a loving, peaceful, graceful, forgiving person. But does that mean subjecting myself to potentially unhealthy interactions over and over again in that spirit?

The problem I'm having is that I want to know the end before I decide if I want to read the story. If he can take some responsibility, and deal with my feels about it like a dad not like a hurt little kid, then I'm down to (slowly) build a relationship again. However, if it's going to be the same old thing, I feel like I only have one more chance to give him and I can't handle it if he blows it again.

I knew you'd understand. *hugs back* Thanks, a lot, like really really.

mon_oubliette December 12 2011, 03:24:51 UTC

You are a loving, peaceful, graceful, forgiving person, which is easier if you do not subject yourself to toxic situations.

I really feel like that's an all or nothing sort of relationship given it is your Dad. You want him to fill that spot not rent it. Some of my hardest choices have been reaching out because I am afraid of what could happen. Sometimes you really want people to step up to a certain level and they just can't. I had to accept that with my family too.