That sounds remarkably healthy. At least for me, part of being a woman is not letting other people define me. I actually like skirts, but heels are an evil plot to make my feet hurt. Which is OK as my tall black boots are currently very stylish...
Thank you. It's taken me a long time to get to that point. The tattoo was a lot of things for me. It was symbolic. It was a beauty mark. It was an act of rebellion. I like it
I have weird feelings about skirts. I like the way I look in them, but I feel undressed. I like to feel fabric on my legs.
So do I, at least in the winter. Which is why God made nice, thick tights and big tall boots. In the summer skirts are much cooler than pants, and nicer than shorts. And more subversive, at least here in the super-casual pacific northwest!
I think each woman has the right to define "femininity" for herself. How do you express your comfort with yourself, your body, your identity as a woman? That's YOUR feminine. Definition by externally imposed, culturally mandated tropes are limiting and silly. Is my husband less masculine because he's not watching the Super Bowl and drinking beer right now? I don't think so. I think the more comfortable you are in your femininity or masculinity, the less you need those symbols.
Of course, I wear makeup and get my nails done, but I like that stuff. :-) Doesn't make me more of a chick than you, chick!
Heh. I do like getting pedicures. The fingernails get ruined by my breathing on them, though, and since I'm a perfectionist, that doesn't work for me. :)
Our society is weird, and I think some of it is a regional thing, too. I know that there are probably plenty of men out there who feel the same way because they like activities that are perceived as "less masculine." It's just one of the reasons that stereotypes irk me.
I think that femininity is different for every woman/girl. I rarely wear skirts or dresses, detest high heels, and pretty much live in jeans/capris/shorts, tshirts, tennis shoes/flip flops. I wear some makeup, but not much, and I have medium length hair. I too like perfume, and polish my toenails, but hate wearing polish on my fingernails and keep them really short. I never have felt anything other than feminine, thought I joke that I dress like a teenager, and probably always will
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Thank you, though. This has been a long struggle for me. Part of what had me so upset was the tying my appearance to my sexual orientation. I'm straight, but I have gay friends who assume I'm gay based on how I dress and wear my hair. It's annoying, to say the least, mostly because it's the assumption that I don't know myself well enough to know what turns me on. But the fact that it's tied to how I look makes it even harder, because then I feel as though I have something to prove, when I really don't. So this was my way of saying that I'm not going to try to prove anything. :)
Very well put! and Go You! glad you feel good about yourself! There are to many different cultures/people/ideas out there to label things one way and say 'this is it...this is the only way to define this' and think that it's going to work for everyone.
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I like your logic for the tatoo, very apt.
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I have weird feelings about skirts. I like the way I look in them, but I feel undressed. I like to feel fabric on my legs.
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So do I, at least in the winter. Which is why God made nice, thick tights and big tall boots. In the summer skirts are much cooler than pants, and nicer than shorts. And more subversive, at least here in the super-casual pacific northwest!
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Of course, I wear makeup and get my nails done, but I like that stuff. :-) Doesn't make me more of a chick than you, chick!
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Our society is weird, and I think some of it is a regional thing, too. I know that there are probably plenty of men out there who feel the same way because they like activities that are perceived as "less masculine." It's just one of the reasons that stereotypes irk me.
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Thank you, though. This has been a long struggle for me. Part of what had me so upset was the tying my appearance to my sexual orientation. I'm straight, but I have gay friends who assume I'm gay based on how I dress and wear my hair. It's annoying, to say the least, mostly because it's the assumption that I don't know myself well enough to know what turns me on. But the fact that it's tied to how I look makes it even harder, because then I feel as though I have something to prove, when I really don't. So this was my way of saying that I'm not going to try to prove anything. :)
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