Copied essentially verbatim from a Fetlife conversation thread about 'service tops' - this is not quite the essay I'd been intending to write on this topic, but I've had it on my mind for a while, so I'm going to preserve the best attempt I've made at it yet for posterity.
Much musing about kink, logic, diversity, and all of the gorgeous colours of
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Ewen
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(I find the Ask/Guess culture idea very useful though.)
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Likewise, whilst Maxine's post is a good one, it still only works in a narrowly defined scene.
There's nothing preventing a somewhat more organic arrangement of a scene - aside from rigid thinking from the participants, of course.
Still, it's a much better scale than reducing everything to D/s.
[1] To anyone with any experience. Even Julian Sanchez misses the point - not only are people negotiating where on the relationship gradient they lie[2], but they're also implicitly deciding how far they're willing to commit.
[2] I suppose you could also define relationships in two dimensions rather than one. Involvement vs commitment, perhaps. These things are complicated already though.
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And yes, as syllopsium points out, these are binary categories imposed on an analogue world, and thus imperfect (and occasionally confusing the issue more than clarifying it) - but since we're creatures of analysis, one has to begin somewhere!
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I have no problem with the folks it works for, I just wish the image of kink included more variety.
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