4 hours and counting

[elmnopo]

Mom has another round of imaging and perhaps a biopsy today. Really, this is a stalling action for the definitive action: surgery. This was the best compromise that I and her surgeons could come up with to bring her back to the table

Comments

[lindapendant]

I missed your previous post about your mom somehow and went back and read it. I'm sorry to hear what all of you are up against.

Out of curiosity, what sort of treatment is being recommended for the cancer? Radiation? Chemo?

Of course it goes without saying that I have no idea about what's going through your mom's head, but if I was ever told I needed chemo, I'd ask for the death pill and get it over with quick.

I'd sign up for slicing and dicing in a New York minute, but that always comes with a side of chemo from what I've seen so far.

[elmnopo]

As it stands, she could either get a mastectomy and no radiation OR a lumpectomy with 6 weeks of radiation. If lymph node dissection proves negative, she won't need any chemo (I think).

She doesn't like surgery and has always preferred an Eastern/herbal way for major diseases. It's funny that for little things such as colds, she's all about going to the Western doctor and nuking it with antibiotics or whatever. Hmmm.

[elmnopo]

As it stands, she could get a mastectomy only OR a lumpectomy with 6 weeks of radiation. If the lymph node dissection is negative, she won't need chemo (I think).

She doesn't like surgery and has always preferred Eastern/herbal therapy for major things. It's funny that for colds and such, she always encourages going to the doctor and nuking it with antibiotics and such.

[spentpenny]

Minh, you're doing the right thing by bringing the family into this crisis. You can't be expected to handle it alone, and your mom, in spite of her most fervent denials, desperately needs the support system her family can offer.

I'm thinking of you, dear.

[elmnopo]

Yeah, I think we've waited long enough. Grr, I always seem to placed in tough situations like this.

I got your invite but dont' think I can go because I'm on call. That's awesome you're playing at SXSW! I wish I could see you play!

[spaceoperadiva]

The sooner the family knows the better. The longer your mom waits to tell them, the bigger the shock and panic and "why didn't you tell me" chaos will be. You need help and everyone else needs to be informed.

I advise against getting into any head on confrontation with the guru, though I understand the temptation. Chances are it will only set your mom up to be even more stubborn and defensive.

Internet Hugs ((()))

[elmnopo]

Hmmm, I dont' know...I really just want to hear his side. Maybe he told her to get surgery and she's ignoring it. Based upon the fibbing she's already done, it could happen...

*hugs ya back*

[spaceoperadiva]

If you can talk to him without getting into a confrontation with him, he could be a valuable ally. I think it depends on your ability to not shout at him or argue with him if he says something like "I believe that your mom will be cured by prayer, meditation and crop circles". He may not say anything of the kind, but if he does he's unlikely to budge from that position. I come from a cultural background that makes me very unwilling to argue with priests or people who are older than I am, but I'd still want to yell if I started hearing nonsense in this situation. You may have way better self control than I do, though. :)

[mcpino]

Keep pluggin', kid.

And I agree with the informing the fambly part, most def.

[elmnopo]

Thanks. We'll see how it goes...

[dakotaluna]

Thinking of you.

[elmnopo]

*hugss*