I can't believe you have that desk cleared off already. What a big job to move it. And through the snow, too! Dave will be glad to have such a desk to work on.
I'm a little late, but happy Thanksgiving! Your photo is very nice! I was thinking about you very recently. I go to visit my father often in the care facility where he is and he has some days that are better than others, but most often, he is worried and concerned and asks me repeatedly where I am staying and if I have a car, and know my way around. His mind is back in earlier years when we struggled to survive. Other times, he is obsessed with finding a way out of the care facility he's in. He thinks everyone there is being held captive against their will and he asks, repeatedly, where the door is and how we will get out! Most days, he remembers who I am, but not everyday. I remembered how you took care of your mother everyday for years. I already admired you for many reasons, but seeing my dad everyday (or almost every day) makes me think of you often, with great respect.
So sorry to hear your dad is suffering memory loss. It is a terrible thing to lose the proper use of your mind. And very sad for the family to watch. I'll be thinking of you and hoping the best for you and your dad. It is very hard, no doubt about it. Thank you for your kind words.
I've been feeling like my presence has made a positive difference in my dad's life, and even some of the staff have commented on how much more settled he is. But today was probably the worst day yet. He didn't know who I was but he didn't want me to leave him. He got very angry with me and used harsh language. I kept reminding myself to not take it personally, but I left the facility feeling unhappy! Also, he has become more and more incontinent, and sleeping more now than when I first arrived. The progression of his dementia was so slow for so many years, it is difficult now to see him sliding down hill so quickly. Still, I am extremely thankful to be here and I'm treasuring every minute that I can.
I remember so many days like you describe - when mom just wasn't herself. So sad. You want it to be over and you want it to last cause that is all you have of them anymore. But being there for him is such a good thing. Even if he doesn't know you all the time you are giving comfort to him and that is worth a lot.
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I can't believe you have that desk cleared off already. What a big job to move it. And through the snow, too! Dave will be glad to have such a desk to work on.
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I'm a little late, but happy Thanksgiving! Your photo is very nice! I was thinking about you very recently. I go to visit my father often in the care facility where he is and he has some days that are better than others, but most often, he is worried and concerned and asks me repeatedly where I am staying and if I have a car, and know my way around. His mind is back in earlier years when we struggled to survive. Other times, he is obsessed with finding a way out of the care facility he's in. He thinks everyone there is being held captive against their will and he asks, repeatedly, where the door is and how we will get out! Most days, he remembers who I am, but not everyday. I remembered how you took care of your mother everyday for years. I already admired you for many reasons, but seeing my dad everyday (or almost every day) makes me think of you often, with great respect.
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