Relationship struggles...

[earthy_goddess]

-------------How can one support their partner when their actions are difficult to continuously deal with? ----------------

Yesterday was supposed to be a cosy evening for NT and I. We rented a movie and we were planning to relax and enjoy some time together but we ended up fighting instead. He is having a hard time with me developing deeper

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[armandii]

I'm immediately reminded of the premis in 'Men are from Mars, Women from Venus' in which the way men handle upsetting feelings is to 'go to their cave'. The book is simplistic, but I do feel that some people (regardless of being male or female) have a need to go off and ruminate alone and shut out every one else. It is hard if you are the sort of person who wants to discuss and be emotionally open to solve the issue but if this is his way of handling stress I'd let him do it without interference. There may be times when he is more open and that is the time to discuss things.

[earthy_goddess]

Thanks so much for your thoughts. You are completely right with how some people do have a need to be alone when processing their emotions. I know that sometimes I am that way, especially when I am not sure what I am feeling. I am willing to give him space. The problem is when he is feeling weird about something he won't say anything and then he continues to carry it around. I sense he feels strange and ask him about it but he denies it. It is hard to leave it at there because what he is feeling affects us. I know what you are saying and I will think more about this in regards to our relationship. I really do appreciate your insight.

[belenen]

I will come back and make a full response later... for now I just want to let you know that I am praying and sending positive energy to you ♥

*lovelove* it will work out *hugs*

[earthy_goddess]

Thank you for your support! It will work out....Much *love* to you!!! <3

[acid_burns]

Be strong.

[earthy_goddess]

I am trying...thank you. Your icon is adorable!

[acid_burns]

as is yours :)

[earthy_goddess]

Thank you! :D

-Bel made it from a photograph I sent to her.-

[kmiotutsie]

ohhhhh *sympathy* those feeling of his are Not-Healthy... is he talking to anyone about it other than you??

[earthy_goddess]

Thanks! You brought up a really good point. I don't think he is talking with anyone but me...at least to my knowledge. We talked about it and although he has great friends, he also has a hard time being fully open with them. (Mostly because they are not as 'aware' as he is.) It is interesting because he is very open and honest but as with most people emotions were never dealt with in his home. I suggested a while ago for him to see someone or try to talk more about things with others too. He knows they are not healthy (as do I) which is why I want to process through this. Ugh! This is the part that makes it all so frustrating. I think him talking to someone will definitely help. I appreciate your comment!