This is a question I've been entirely unable to find the answer to, or at least the question of how men will specifically like me. I wish I had some great advice to offer but I only have sympathy.
Thank you for your sympathy. I kind of posted last night in a small fit of manic worry, but it was brought on by my being in a new situation and seeing all my old patterns re: social interaction play out. It's very frustrating. Obviously, no one is entitled to a relationship, but being a person who really does enjoy the company of other people and longs for some level of intimacy in her life, I often feel deficient in that I have no avenues for achieving it
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I signed up for an online dating site last year when I was feeling really lonely in Japan and hoping that if nothing else I might find a friend there, and I haven't had any horrible experiences, but neither have I gotten anything out of it beyond some extended online conversations and the occasional ego boost of having guys tell me I look good, which never seems to happen offline. It does seem to work for some people, but I guess you have to be willing to take the risk of meeting people in person and hoping they're not creeps.
I often feel like I must have missed the class on how to start relationships, and it's a lot harder to get away with being clueless at this age than when you're a teenager. It would be nice if it was something we could research like make-up or hockey.
YO!!!! Have been off LJ for a while, so am late to the party here and also have no sage advice, but just wanted to share the sage wisdom of a friend of mine, who said something along the lines of "When you're alone with a man and finally getting down to business, he's not thinking 'her boobs are too small' or 'she's too fat,' he's really thinking 'Wow, she's naked!'" Not that this helps you get to the nekkid stage, but still, I found it terribly reassuring. :P
Most of what I assume men say/think about women behind their backs comes from tv/movies/internet trolls, which I think skews reality somewhat. And with that, I'll stop being ramblingly unhelpful...
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I often feel like I must have missed the class on how to start relationships, and it's a lot harder to get away with being clueless at this age than when you're a teenager. It would be nice if it was something we could research like make-up or hockey.
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Most of what I assume men say/think about women behind their backs comes from tv/movies/internet trolls, which I think skews reality somewhat. And with that, I'll stop being ramblingly unhelpful...
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