Comments | dzuunmod: Children, again.

dzuunmod

Children, again.

Aug 27, 2009 19:17

That whole childfree thing I posted about a bit back, I've been reading more about it - about this woman Corinne Maier and her book, and mostly all the pieces that the Post has published posted in, I guess, a kind of response to all the hype around it.

( Here's a sampling. )

racism, children, national post

Comments 11

bkmichele August 28 2009, 02:45:39 UTC

There are too many big words in those paragraphs for me to handle right now. I just hate how the outspoken childfree are so hateful. I am fairly certain I don't want children and I don't particularly enjoy hearing about other people's children outside of an intellectual standpoint (no your kid's ability to walk is not amazing, but can you please share the medical trends on walking ages of children in comparison to what number child they are and how their parents treat them).

On that note, during our harassment training earlier this week I found myself wondering whether I could legitimately ask my boss to refrain from displaying partially naked photos of her under 4 yr old grandchildren. I find it annoying that I have to pretend to be interested (she shows, I have a polite look) & it honestly makes me uncomfortable so is it really worth starting shit over?

/drunken ramble

dzuunmod August 28 2009, 02:50:58 UTC

Personally, I don't think that the childfree side has a monopoly on the outspoken, the hateful or the outspoken hateful!

It's probably not worth starting shit over, but I'd say it depends an awful lot on how the rest of your relationship with your boss is.

bkmichele August 28 2009, 03:01:06 UTC

My relationship with my boss is tolerable at best ( ... )

fuzzyila August 28 2009, 09:47:21 UTC

many of its members (at least of my age and younger) tend to see it as something that's robbing them of the people they care about, and often they get resentful of those people.

I don't get resentful, but I do notice that my friendships are changing. They changed when I chose to go to higher education, they changed when I got married and they're changing now that I'm spawning. I don't feel robbed, but I sometimes feel sad. Still, everyone in life has to make choices for their own lives and if your friends stick around, good, if not, there will have to be others. And it goes both ways.

I can never quite tell if my childless/childfree friends are happy for me or not, if they're jealous or not, or if they understand me or not. A lot of the time I feel like (or know) I'm being laughed at for my behaviour (the overwhelming urge/instinct to protect) and they just don't and won't ever have a *clue* until it happens to them. So that's kinda annoying.

sabatoa August 28 2009, 12:03:02 UTC

I know that I've been child-free and married for god, almost 11 years and I can say that I've been truly happy.

fiercecupcake August 28 2009, 14:55:16 UTC

I don't want kids. I have never wanted to have children, and I will never have them. People have been telling me since I can remember that "one day" I'll change my mind, but I won't -- I don't want them ( ... )

fiercecupcake August 28 2009, 16:11:43 UTC

Heh. The most important part:

4. I don't like children, in general. There are a few kids, as I mentioned above, who I like, but for the most part? Can't stand 'em, and any kid I had would I'm sure pick up on that. Even if I liked my kid, having a kid means you have to be around a lot of other kids.

fiercecupcake August 28 2009, 16:28:35 UTC

And more!

5. There is no possible way I could deal with the paranoia that would come from having a kid. I am already totally paranoid about Jen's safety, and she is an adult who can survive on her own and (usually) make good decisions about avoiding things that might harm her. My heart simply could not handle worrying about my kid every single fucking second, and I know I would. And how would that feel if you were growing up and your mom was like that? Having a kid = scariest thing ever.

fifthbusiness August 29 2009, 13:35:36 UTC

man, i am so with you there! one of the (many) reasons i don't want kids is because i don't want to produce anyone that might be as miserable as i've been for most of my life, because i'm not sure it's been worth it yet. why would i put someone else through that? and sure, for me it's partly a form of self-hatred, but i don't see how that's related at all to being a "coward" pr any sort. not seeing a connection.