You did a very good job of ignoring the women vying for Senor Gorgeous' attention, and refusing to act jealous - and he noticed it, and respects you even more for it. This ought to have the effect of gradually making him care more and more for you, over those lesser women who are acting like smitten schoolgirls :-)
I noticed a long time ago that he doesn't want to be too close to anyone. His main focus in life is his 2 kids and earning enough money to provide for them. They live in Norway with his Japanese ex wife and it seems that if he wants to see them/do anything with them he has to pay for the lot. He was really disappointed that Emi(who is 18) can't come to FuerteVentura with us, though Kai (his 10 year old son) will be there. I'm really looking forward to meeting the lad. But even if I hadn't already known, the speed at which he pulled away from his Landlady when she got jealous and possessive(from what she told me) would have given me a clue!! To be honest, we are both the kind of people who want our own lives and space, and I am pretty sure that my keeping a distance is the best way to stay friends (with benefits) with him. I may adore him privately, but he is one of those superfit hyperactive twitchy people and we would probably drive each other mad in too close proximity.After all I am fat, lazy and altogether too comfortable with
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When it comes to relationships, you are a very smart woman! Nomad and Chesh aren't the only polyamorous people I know - my own son and his wife are, too, to the degree that my daughter-in-law's boyfriend lives with them. (And I've known quite a few others.) Once you get past the common assumption that everybody has to pair up, with 2 being the only permissible number, you realize how limiting that can be! I could cheerfully be polyamorous myself, except for two things: 1) None of the people I want to be polyamorous with want to be polyamorous with me, and 2) my husband doesn't like the idea, and I do want him around for the foreseeable future!
It seems as if you and Gorgeous have an "understanding", whether you've ever actually talked it over or not. It works for both of you, it makes you both happy, and that's all that counts.
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And who knows where that might lead!
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It seems as if you and Gorgeous have an "understanding", whether you've ever actually talked it over or not. It works for both of you, it makes you both happy, and that's all that counts.
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