Mea Culpa

[tikvah]

I've been criticized, and rightly so. I was unduly harsh and judgmental.

The quote itself might have been snark-worthy, but everything else I said was inappropriate.

I'm sorry.

Comments

[kaligrrrl]

thank you. I really appreciate this. :)

[liamstliam]

Classy.

[shantih]

Actually ... the fact you were dogpiled here in dot_poly_snark bothers me.

In pretty much every snarkable situation, the people being snarked have their own reasons for doing what they're doing, and it seems reasonable to them. Maybe they're too young, maybe they're in a toxic or abusive relationship, maybe they don't know how to get out, sure. EVERYONE has reasons.

And what the outcry against your post said to me was that a significant subset of dot_poly_snark is only okay with those reasons being snarked when they don't hit too close to home.

That, to me, is hypocritical.

The quote you posted was funny. The other things you said about the post -- harsh and judgemental, maybe, but this is not dot_poly_compassion. Whether you feel okay with what you posted or not is on your conscience, and I can understand how you might feel badly about it, having been so ... strenuously educated? ... by people whose experience mirrored the OPs. BUT. You shouldn't owe dot_poly_snark an apology. What you posted was not inappropriate to post here

[papertigers]

What you posted was not inappropriate to post here.

the vocal majority of the community disagrees with you, and that's the standard that does (and IMO, should) decide here. oh, and if the "dogpiling" bothers you, you know the way out.

[shantih]

oh, and if the "dogpiling" bothers you, you know the way out.

Oh please. That was a rather unnecessary bit of posturing, there. Yes, I know the way out. If I felt the need to leave over comments to a single post in d_p_s, I'd have used it.

[papertigers]

actually, it was a sincere suggestion, worded snarkily. if a comment exchange of that nature that doesn't involve or affect you bothers you that much, you're probably in the wrong place. the person it was directed at didn't seem to find it objectionable, whether or not s/he agreed with the opinions bein expressed. all of the dot_snark communities share one concept in common with their sire, dot_cattiness; if you dish it out, be prepared to take it. you obviously aren't, even to the extent of just watching.

Mostly, i'm looking for an excuse to use this

[tandu]

[cinema_babe]

Although I didn't think an apology was necessary, I think you showed a lot of maturity and class in this post, tikvah. I'd tip my hat to you (well I would if I wore a hat.)