Lesbian Mermaids

[docbrite]

I've been letting myself get all antisocial again because, as I ranted to Grey earlier, "why go out because it's just going to be a bunch of people misgendering me all over the place even if I wear the horrible uncomfortable binder and I don't even know what fucking restroom to use anymore." This is especially not-good because Southern Decadence is

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[redhaddock]

As another trans man, I've been wanting to send you some encouragement for a while, but I'm a bit paranoid about disclosing my status under any established online account/username. (Sorry for the sockpuppet!) Also apologies in advance if my writing isn't very clear; this is the first time I have talked about my experiences with being trans in four or five years and these are difficult things to articulate without practice. Nonetheless I hope I can offer you some support.

So much of the crap you're dealing with and have dealt with while transitioning is a lot like what I went through, at similar points during transition; it's uncanny reading your posts at times. Being constantly misgendered after a couple months on testosterone was the worst part of it for me. (I remember one specific incident at the end of that phase where I had to hand a cashier some ID and he spat out, "Have a nice day, [legal name]," in a busy store, like he was doing society a valuable service for pointing out the deviant. That was fun

[grenacia]

I vote for the "TRANS DUDE" t-shirt! In the right environment, it is a great way to simplify things. Though there are always assholes out there, a lot of misgendering is accidental.

Transitioning takes time. I know people who once upon a time couldn't pass who now are at the point where the casual observer doesn't even realize they're trans.

[riverrocks]

Something I've found useful in community* contexts where people should know better but still constantly mess up and misgender me is to wear a little button with the word he printed on it clearly. When ask about it I describe it as my subtitle for folks who forget. I like it because it's relatively subtle and can be worn with both casual and dressy attire.

* community here can mean both trans specific community events, but also other kinds of community where I am not a total stranger even if I am not particularly known to everyone involved.

[threemilechild]

I like this idea a lot.

I'm not exactly comfortable with asking people to identify themselves as trans (it's not necessarily my business and possibly dangerous to them), but it's sometimes hard to tell whether someone is gender nonconforming or transgender and a wrong guess can be hurtful either way.

A button explicitly telling me how you'd like to be addressed is peachy-keen.

[cuntishness]

I think the TRANS DUDE shirt is completely awesome.
You are a man. A gay man. And I hope you find a way to live the life that's right for you. We all have that right.

I sent you a private message.

[cuntishness]

Oh and, funky monkey on magazine makes shirts that cost by the letter.

[padiwack]

I hope you brave the party and have a wonderful time, despite your fears of how other people define you.