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[developer]

Had first 1 on 1 with my boss in nearly a month and while we didn't address everything I think my fit issues may be more in my head than not. I recently had someone observe that they can't imagine I ever feel like I fit in anywhere, and it is true to a degree

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[fairoriana]

I'm glad you're feeling better. I wouldn't discount that sense of unease entirely, though. I've talked myself out of doing the things I should have done for years at a time, and I regret it a bit now. But learning new things is a definite consolation of an uncomfortable place!

[developer]

I haven't ruled out leaving, I think I just realized I needed to remember the positive. I do worry that when they hire the next dev I will be pushed out to pasture.

[fairoriana]

I have a tendency to tolerate being boiled by degrees, so I'm always watchful for it. Those exact type of conversations have helped bolster my wishful thinking and keep me in roles I should have left.

[rolypolypony]

I'm glad that that helped some!

Being uncomfortable sucks, but there's a difference between the uncomfortable of stretching yourself and the uncomfortable of not feeling a place. It could be one or the other, or both - just keep an eye on it, you know?