Comments | descant: How to Support People

descant

How to Support People

Feb 01, 2009 22:44

UPDATE: I'm making this entry public, so people can link to it. Comments are screened for anonymous posters only.

Stephen Fry made a memoir-documentary called "The Secret Life of the Manic Depressive". In the film, he explored his own battle with manic depression (aka bipolar disorder) and interviewed others with the same condition. The video can ( Read more... )

mental health, links

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What Not to Say/Do gemini6ice February 2 2009, 04:28:42 UTC

add "You've got to stop worrying about things. Just stop thinking the negative thoughts. It worked for me"

Re: What Not to Say/Do gemini6ice February 2 2009, 04:29:34 UTC

"call them 'emo' or 'debbie downer'"

Re: What Not to Say/Do gemini6ice February 2 2009, 04:30:29 UTC

be a know-it-all

Re: What Not to Say/Do descant February 2 2009, 04:34:18 UTC

I'm not quite sure what you mean by this. Do you mean telling the person what it feels like to be them?

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gemini6ice February 2 2009, 04:33:32 UTC

Also...

You might want to both screen comments and make this entry public.

descant February 2 2009, 04:43:40 UTC

Do you think that it would be useful? And would you want your comments screened?

gemini6ice February 2 2009, 04:58:36 UTC

I would like to link to your entry, but not everyone I know (very few, in fact?) is friends with you.

I don't need my comments screened, but I can imagine someone having something to say who is afraid of everyone else knowing about eir depression/trauma/survivorship.

descant February 2 2009, 05:15:54 UTC

The entry is public now, and I've turned on screening for anonymous comments, in case there is anyone who wants to keep on the DL.

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placeboweek February 2 2009, 04:54:14 UTC

This is a good list. Another thing not to do to someone dealing with stress is to start rattling off your own stress. Because it makes the stressed person feel even more stress (the exception to this is either if you are both stressed about the same thing and need to vent, or if you have a suggestion for how to deal with the stress -- e.g. "I was overcharged on my phone bill once, too, but I asked to speak with a supervisor and it was resolved.")

a_tiny_goat February 2 2009, 05:29:54 UTC

Amen to this!

gemini6ice February 2 2009, 13:42:58 UTC

Yeah, solutions to specific problems are good.

a_tiny_goat February 2 2009, 05:32:04 UTC

Thank you for posting this! I am grateful to see that stress is up there on the list, because that can be just as debilitating as abuse or depression.

barilosopher February 2 2009, 20:11:17 UTC

It's sad that lists like this are necessary. Every one of these items looks to me like it should be obvious common sense. But I know they're not always.