Two requests (I am awful!), please: 1) if you have one can you email the recipe for the potatoe and leek soup; I had one I loved, but forgot to back it up from my dead computer (I mainly backed up only fic and research); 2) I want also a recipe for the New World stew--Laura and I are trying to eat more vegetarian meals when Gabriel is not around
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OME, you are so not awful! I'll send the recipes over shortly. :) Potato leek is already typed up because we put together a cookbook for friends (two of those who blew us off!) for a wedding gift last year. I suspect I might be needing New World stew typed up too, based on its popularity
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Will do! :D You're going to get to try the pumpkin soup when you're over, btw, if you want. We're planning to make enough extra to freeze for dinner one night when you guys are staying with us. :)
Bobby's going to type up a bunch of recipes now for our recipe binder, including New World stew, so I should have them over in a bit.
I always seem to get sidetracked by other things (namely weird interruptions), so I have to really plan out my time so that I am not late for events of any sort.
I grew up in a family that was perpetually late for everything. My sister and I would have to be at school for a band concert by 7:30, and at 7:25, my parents would be sitting in the garage, lighting up another cigarette, and we'd be the kids slinking in 15 minutes late while the rest of the band was warming up, getting the stinkeye from our teachers! So I've had to train myself to be prompt as well and can be derailed too easily by distractions.
I taught myself to list appointments as 10-15 minutes earlier than the actual time and plan for an extra 15 minutes of drive time -- all of which helps keep me mostly on time.
I agree that it must be our generation, and I also think it starts because no one is really taught manners anymore. I am not a very old-fashioned person but ... okay, I am old-fashioned in this. :) My sister and I were raised to be courteous. I remember sitting in restaurants when we were small, and strangers would come up and say how well-behaved we were. Or servers would compliment my parents because we actually said "please" and "thank you" rather than "gimme chicken fingers." That it was noticed so regularly tells me that it wasn't common. (Even today, Bobby and I are often told by servers that they appreciate serving us because we're nice and polite. One time, we went to Buffalo Wild Wings late for a snack, and our server told us that we were her first polite table all night. Other servers have told us that they argue with each other to serve us. [That's also because we tip really well. We used to be in the business and know how it goes. ;)] But I think it's sad that basic politeness like looking up when someone speaks to you or
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It's DEFINITELY NOT generational. I think it's mostly just plain laziness. There is no attempt, it seems, at either home or school to teach youngsters basic manners. Thus, they frequently never learn that a "No thanks, I'm not coming" is actually much preferred to no response at all
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Re: No SHowsdawn_felagundOctober 25 2010, 12:08:43 UTC
Suggestion - next year only invite the ones who responded to this years invite!
Great minds! :) That's what we're doing. We're also not contacting the one group just to see how long it takes them to realize that we haven't spoken in weeks. A little experiment, you could say. :)
And you can chastise me for not coming after all my Saturday plans went to worms
I will do no such thing! :) You were up-front from the start that you had other plans that day and probably wouldn't make it. And everyone has bad days and has to cancel plans on occasion, even if you had given a definitive yes and then the day went sour. It's just that with some of our friends, it's constant. I don't know if they're really that inconsiderate or just irresponsible or a bit of both.
By the way - if you want to snooze at the Barony event I'll put a pillow under the A & S table and you can sneak under the table cloth and nap.
Sad to say, but I think your plan is what it might take. For whatever reason people are no longer taught the little niceties, the basic courtesy and with all the new and easy to use (and fast) technology - they can't answer a simple e-mail invitation???? They'd be falling a few pegs on my Friend-o-meter!
Perhaps they don't understand what calendars are for? And those little pop up message reminders? Hey - if I can figure out what to do with them, ANYONE should be able to do the same. But then that assumes they realize they need to exercise some basic COURTESY..... oh, what an onerous chore....
I doubt its generational, more in how people are raised. I always wondered that when people long for more gatherings like that, then can't be bothered to show interest in the next one. Hubby says that people say such a thing because it's the socially expected answer, once out of sight folks turn to their own things again, leaving those who really like to go to those things with their hopes up.
As for the distances things... yeah it's incompetent behaviour. For my kid I have to plan and structure things in a timely fashion (I now need to know how a week looks like so that I get an even balance for him), make sure he knows what we're about to do and therefore always on time (which is funny since we do live the furthest away of everyone). It's frustrating as hell (especially like yesterday when stuff are changed halfway and I have a confused kid), that's for sure.
I agree that waxing sentimental is probably partially because you're with people and enjoying their company ... and then when you're apart, you realize, "Oh. It's still an hour's drive to go see them! Are they really that much fun to be around??" :D
As I told Bobby, that attitude is making it much easier for us to stay in Carroll County. It might come as a surprise to many of our family and friends that we don't like driving an hour to go to a gathering anymore than they do. We often do because it's the right thing to do, to go see your friends or family a couple of times per year, even if it's a pain in the arse. Their unwillingness to extend the same courtesy is dampening my desire to make that sacrifice, however.
Eegads, I can't imagine the frustration of depending on people for plans with K's need for structure. I sometimes wonder how 90% of people even manage to find their way out of bed in the morning!
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Great minds! :) That's what we're doing. We're also not contacting the one group just to see how long it takes them to realize that we haven't spoken in weeks. A little experiment, you could say. :)
And you can chastise me for not coming after all my Saturday plans went to worms
I will do no such thing! :) You were up-front from the start that you had other plans that day and probably wouldn't make it. And everyone has bad days and has to cancel plans on occasion, even if you had given a definitive yes and then the day went sour. It's just that with some of our friends, it's constant. I don't know if they're really that inconsiderate or just irresponsible or a bit of both.
By the way - if you want to snooze at the Barony event I'll put a pillow under the A & S table and you can sneak under the table cloth and nap.
Lol! I might just have to take you up on that! :D
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Perhaps they don't understand what calendars are for? And those little pop up message reminders? Hey - if I can figure out what to do with them, ANYONE should be able to do the same. But then that assumes they realize they need to exercise some basic COURTESY..... oh, what an onerous chore....
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As for the distances things... yeah it's incompetent behaviour. For my kid I have to plan and structure things in a timely fashion (I now need to know how a week looks like so that I get an even balance for him), make sure he knows what we're about to do and therefore always on time (which is funny since we do live the furthest away of everyone). It's frustrating as hell (especially like yesterday when stuff are changed halfway and I have a confused kid), that's for sure.
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As I told Bobby, that attitude is making it much easier for us to stay in Carroll County. It might come as a surprise to many of our family and friends that we don't like driving an hour to go to a gathering anymore than they do. We often do because it's the right thing to do, to go see your friends or family a couple of times per year, even if it's a pain in the arse. Their unwillingness to extend the same courtesy is dampening my desire to make that sacrifice, however.
Eegads, I can't imagine the frustration of depending on people for plans with K's need for structure. I sometimes wonder how 90% of people even manage to find their way out of bed in the morning!
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