Friction between your friends and your significant other? Length in relationship before sex? Questions bolded and italicized in case of verbosity! ( Read more... )
What sort of tensions have you experienced between your friends and significant other, if any? How did you go about dealing with them? I tried to make plans that everyone could agree on. Make compromises- "Last time we did what you wanted, this time we'll do what someone else wants." I would try to figure out the root of their issues too. Did something happen that you and her boyfriend don't know about? (I don't mean cheating, it could have been an argument that no one told you about or something). That may help to fix things.
How long were you involved before you started having sex? For the three guys I slept with, the first guy we waited about 3 weeks after we started dating (we knew each other from work but weren't particularly close before that
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What sort of tensions have you experienced between your friends and significant other, if any? How did you go about dealing with them? Thankfully this has never been a serious problem in my relationship. Practically all our friends are in relationships and for the few who aren't sometimes they get jealous or upset that we aren't always spending time with them. Thing is too, my boyfriend never really hung out with anyone until he started dating me, so we have all the same friends. Usually my boyfriend and I try to spend time with everyone on the weekend or at least once a week. Like I said, it's never been a serious issue, but every once in a while one of the friends will say something that they were upset we didn't come along or something when we were busy or had other plans.
How long were you involved before you started having sex? Technically we have not had sex and I like that because I am afraid of pregnancy and not ready for it yet. He isn't either, which is why it works out well that we were virgins when we started dating
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Personally, I want to know where on earth you've found a pub open til 5am in London! I mean, even with these new extended licenses and all that... enquiring minds want to know.
I'm not going to answer your questions at length because I don't think you'll find the answers particularly helpful. It doesn't matter how long everyone else takes to have sex (besides, there's no answer to that question), only that you do it at the time that is right for you.
According to the dictionary, 'intimacy' means 'a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group', a definition with which I have no quarrels. Of course it is possible to be intimate in many ways, not only the physical - sharing time, sharing secrets, non sexual touching, being honest, being vulnurable... etc. But thaat doesn't mean they are a substitute for physical intimacy if you're interested in that.
Have you told him you are interested in having sex with him? he may be more than happy to oblige. Also, while it's cute
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I can't add anything about the intimacy/sex issue that sweetrush hasn't already said, but I want to comment on the "truce" issue. This is really simple. Spend some time going out with your friend as friends and spend some time going out with your boyfriend as boyfriend/girlfriend that are not times spent together. There's no reason for you to go out as a group all of the time.
I don't think one should ever be made to choose between one's SO and a friend. If people want you to choose, they are not very good friends. I always work on the assumption that I can be honest with friend and boyfriend, so will tell my opinion to either party who I feel is acting badly or tell both they are being silly, whichever applies. Sounds to me like Stephanie is a spoiled brat who cannot compromise and doesn't care about other people's feelings and wants.
Why does he have to stay out until 5am? Can't he come for a bit and then go home when he's tired, and take you as well if you haven't got a cab? Your idea of compromise is very reasonable, maybe tell Stephanie it's not personal preference, but that you don't want to get caught in the middle
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I tried to make plans that everyone could agree on. Make compromises- "Last time we did what you wanted, this time we'll do what someone else wants." I would try to figure out the root of their issues too. Did something happen that you and her boyfriend don't know about? (I don't mean cheating, it could have been an argument that no one told you about or something). That may help to fix things.
How long were you involved before you started having sex? For the three guys I slept with, the first guy we waited about 3 weeks after we started dating (we knew each other from work but weren't particularly close before that ( ... )
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Thankfully this has never been a serious problem in my relationship. Practically all our friends are in relationships and for the few who aren't sometimes they get jealous or upset that we aren't always spending time with them. Thing is too, my boyfriend never really hung out with anyone until he started dating me, so we have all the same friends. Usually my boyfriend and I try to spend time with everyone on the weekend or at least once a week. Like I said, it's never been a serious issue, but every once in a while one of the friends will say something that they were upset we didn't come along or something when we were busy or had other plans.
How long were you involved before you started having sex?
Technically we have not had sex and I like that because I am afraid of pregnancy and not ready for it yet. He isn't either, which is why it works out well that we were virgins when we started dating ( ... )
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I'm not going to answer your questions at length because I don't think you'll find the answers particularly helpful. It doesn't matter how long everyone else takes to have sex (besides, there's no answer to that question), only that you do it at the time that is right for you.
According to the dictionary, 'intimacy' means 'a close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person or group', a definition with which I have no quarrels. Of course it is possible to be intimate in many ways, not only the physical - sharing time, sharing secrets, non sexual touching, being honest, being vulnurable... etc. But thaat doesn't mean they are a substitute for physical intimacy if you're interested in that.
Have you told him you are interested in having sex with him? he may be more than happy to oblige. Also, while it's cute ( ... )
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