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Friction between your friends and your significant other? Length in relationship before sex? Questions bolded and italicized in case of verbosity!
My boyfriend, Hallam, and I were introduced by our friend Stephanie. Her boyfriend, Steve, is the one responsible for H and I getting together.
The three have all been friends for years, I only came into the picture last September, and Hallam and I started dating in October.
Lately, there has been friction between Stephanie and Hallam. She's irritated by always having to accommodate his schedule, and he's not having it because whenever we get together in a group- Stephanie and Steve go off on their own.
Working full time and playing two strenuous sports renders H exhausted. The majority of our time together is relaxing with each other, talking, kissing, making jokes, and just enjoying each other's company.
At the same time, I know that if something is truly important to me then he'll make the effort to come.
Stephanie, on the other hand, wants to go to pubs and around London at night. Hallam doesn't drink and has to get up early in the mornings, so the idea of being out until 5 a.m at a pub is highly unappealing to him.
Stephanie expects me to stick by her side on things, because we are females and apparently there is some supposed bond of solidarity we must uphold.
So Hallam will do something that pisses Stephanie off, and she comes ranting to me, expecting me to get mad, but I don't. I remain neutral.
I feel like I'm stuck in the middle between two bickering children.
How does one go about calling a truce? Would it be fair if we implemented a "trade off" system so to speak? As in, one week we do what Steph wants, and the other we do what Hal wants, within reason of course! And how about, on occasion we do what Erin (me) and Steve really want?!
What sort of tensions have you experienced between your friends and significant other, if any? How did you go about dealing with them?
Now for my next set of questions!
How long were you involved before you started having sex? The boyfriend and I have been together three months now, and we still have not "done it", to put it ever so crudely.
When I asked him, he said that sex has never been a priority in his relationships, he has had solely physical relationships before and they just never lasted.
With me, he says that things are different. So, I suppose that if we build a stronger and deeper relationship because of this lack-of-sex, then it will make it all the more special if/when it does happen.
Don't get me wrong, I am not a sex fiend of any way shape or form! Hell I was never fully comfortable with my body until I met him, and sex always felt.... Void, in the past.
But, intimacy is such an important part of a relationship! How do you define intimacy? Is it possible to be intimate in ways other than the completely physical?
He said that it's not "me", but I can't help but feeling like it is me, being that there have been other girls who so obviously got to experience that side of him.
I think that just about covers that, thanks for reading and any input you may have!
My boyfriend, Hallam, and I were introduced by our friend Stephanie. Her boyfriend, Steve, is the one responsible for H and I getting together.
The three have all been friends for years, I only came into the picture last September, and Hallam and I started dating in October.
Lately, there has been friction between Stephanie and Hallam. She's irritated by always having to accommodate his schedule, and he's not having it because whenever we get together in a group- Stephanie and Steve go off on their own.
Working full time and playing two strenuous sports renders H exhausted. The majority of our time together is relaxing with each other, talking, kissing, making jokes, and just enjoying each other's company.
At the same time, I know that if something is truly important to me then he'll make the effort to come.
Stephanie, on the other hand, wants to go to pubs and around London at night. Hallam doesn't drink and has to get up early in the mornings, so the idea of being out until 5 a.m at a pub is highly unappealing to him.
Stephanie expects me to stick by her side on things, because we are females and apparently there is some supposed bond of solidarity we must uphold.
So Hallam will do something that pisses Stephanie off, and she comes ranting to me, expecting me to get mad, but I don't. I remain neutral.
I feel like I'm stuck in the middle between two bickering children.
How does one go about calling a truce? Would it be fair if we implemented a "trade off" system so to speak? As in, one week we do what Steph wants, and the other we do what Hal wants, within reason of course! And how about, on occasion we do what Erin (me) and Steve really want?!
What sort of tensions have you experienced between your friends and significant other, if any? How did you go about dealing with them?
Now for my next set of questions!
How long were you involved before you started having sex? The boyfriend and I have been together three months now, and we still have not "done it", to put it ever so crudely.
When I asked him, he said that sex has never been a priority in his relationships, he has had solely physical relationships before and they just never lasted.
With me, he says that things are different. So, I suppose that if we build a stronger and deeper relationship because of this lack-of-sex, then it will make it all the more special if/when it does happen.
Don't get me wrong, I am not a sex fiend of any way shape or form! Hell I was never fully comfortable with my body until I met him, and sex always felt.... Void, in the past.
But, intimacy is such an important part of a relationship! How do you define intimacy? Is it possible to be intimate in ways other than the completely physical?
He said that it's not "me", but I can't help but feeling like it is me, being that there have been other girls who so obviously got to experience that side of him.
I think that just about covers that, thanks for reading and any input you may have!