Going to be blunt and straight to the point.dark_faithJanuary 9 2015, 14:44:31 UTC
First off, you told him from the very beginning you will end things if he smoked weed while you were dating. He does it anyway, you let it slide. He smoked weed AGAIN, and now you're asking if you should let it slide for the SECOND time?! If you keep letting it slide, he will not only lie to you but carry on smoking weed behind your back because he won't take you seriously. Every time he does it he'll put on another "cry" performance to win you over, and repeat. I'd stop the cycle honestly. Obviously smoking weed is more important to him, so move on.
Break up with him. You get to have a relationship where neither of you take drugs. He's allowed to make his choices and it's clear that you're not compatible at the moment. Just break up.
I agree completely with this comment. He shouldn't lie to you, but he wouldn't have to lie if you were a bit more accepting of it. On the other hand, if it's a deal breaker for you, then that's your choice and you should break up... I personally do smoke weed regularly, but I maintain a normal life and a professional job. There are many worse things than smoking weed from time to time.
I think strand3d has a good point about your dealbreakers being a bit too rigid, but at the same time, you did make a promise, and you need to keep it. Dump him.
It'll be the best thing for him, because he'll know that he can't get away with things in future. He'll ask himself if drugs are really worth losing an awesome girl over, and--if he has any sense--will answer, "No," and his eventual wife will thank you.
And it'll be the best thing for you, because you'll survive the break-up. I don't mean to be condescending, but... you are only 18. You have time--you have plenty of time. There's a lot of pressure on people, particularly through films and TV, to find their One True Love (TM) in college or even high school, but the percentage of people who actually do this is quite low, because doing so is hard. To find your OTL(TM) you have to already know what you want, and that's something most people don't figure out until they're like 26. (I was thirty when I met my future wife. Heck, I didn't even get laid until I was 27, at which
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If you keep letting it slide, he will not only lie to you but carry on smoking weed behind your back because he won't take you seriously. Every time he does it he'll put on another "cry" performance to win you over, and repeat. I'd stop the cycle honestly. Obviously smoking weed is more important to him, so move on.
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I broke up with a boyfriend for the very same reason, and it was very difficult. But you need to stand by what you said.
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It'll be the best thing for him, because he'll know that he can't get away with things in future. He'll ask himself if drugs are really worth losing an awesome girl over, and--if he has any sense--will answer, "No," and his eventual wife will thank you.
And it'll be the best thing for you, because you'll survive the break-up. I don't mean to be condescending, but... you are only 18. You have time--you have plenty of time. There's a lot of pressure on people, particularly through films and TV, to find their One True Love (TM) in college or even high school, but the percentage of people who actually do this is quite low, because doing so is hard. To find your OTL(TM) you have to already know what you want, and that's something most people don't figure out until they're like 26. (I was thirty when I met my future wife. Heck, I didn't even get laid until I was 27, at which ( ... )
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