Interracial Relationships

[ghettochickn]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a month, but have been friends/fooling around for over a year. We have an amazing connection and have both realized that we just "get" eachother and our compatiability is insane

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[shetheliving]

Just prepare him for it, and prepare yourself for it. My ex was biracial (half white, half Asian), and I thought nothing of it, but for my very sheltered family, I thought it would be a big problem. My mom had told me from a very young age that if I ever got involved with anyone who wasn't of our (white) race, she would disown me. Turns out a lot of those convinctions and opinions go out the window when it's a situation involving your own kid - my very sheltered, very white family loved my ex, and were fine with him once they met him.

[dayglow]

Though not racially charged, I was afraid of the same sort of situation when I brought my boyfriend over for Christmas dinner. My boyfriend is 10 years older than I am, so I was thinking my family would make a big stink about it. (Ironically, I found out that night that one of my cousins, who is a year older than I am, is also dating a guy 10 years older than her

[bluhairedmonky]

I'm in a interracial relationship, but I know my family would never say or do anything racist to embarrass him/us. If it's a concern for you, I suggest what others are saying; talk to certain family members and your boyfriend.

[prease]

I think it depends on your family. You know them better than we do, but I'd like to think positive and say that you might be overreacting here. Then again, I am from Florida and we have a very diverse population. It's hard for me to relate, I suppose.

Why not just have your mom spread the word to the extended family, so they don't say or do anything stupid out of sheer surprise?

And I wouldn't say anything to the boyfriend about it beforehand. You will just set him up to feel out of place and awkward, when in fact the meeting could prove to be completely harmless.

But seriously, unless your family is full of assholes (or racists) with absolutely no social graces, thing should go fine. It's not like if my sister came home with a double amputee I would stare at his stump legs and make an ass of myself with awkward comments. No, I'd just treat him like any other human being. Similarly I don't see why a black guy would cause any fuss, either. He's just a person.

[krystia]

No real advice as of now, but I'm going to be in the same shoes as your boyfriend whenever I meet his family. His parents, sister, and best friends are racist. They DID come from a small town where 95 percent are white. I would say 4 percent are Hmong while the 1 percent is other. I'm half black, half Asian. @_@

The only person he mentioned being REALLY old fashioned and racist was his grandma which he doubts I'd end up meeting.

He says I have nothing to worry about, but I'd like to see how that turns out.

[krystia]

Oh, and what do your parents exactly think of the situation? When was the last time you or them talked to your extended family? Perhaps some mention should be brought up in conversation in someway. Reach out to your relatives before you see them and such.

[ghettochickn]

I hope everything goes well - it's interesting to see things from your perspective.