Flirty Boyfriend

[savvypoetwench]

Do you think it's too much to ask that your boyfriend of two years stop flirting with someone you hate with the fiery burning of ten thousand suns?

This person was one of the first people to befriend him when he started his job two years ago... we got together literally two weeks after he started. I know he had some interest in this girl (she was/

Comments

[ms_octopus_lady]

I don't think you're being too controlling, I think you're reacting like a normal person. Who else wouldn't be pissed off in this kind of situation? I know guys who are "naturally" flirtatious, but as soon as they get a girlfriend, they cut it out. Those who don't are usually (usually, not always!) insecure and need the attention of other women to make them feel "manly," especially ones who are supposedly hot.

Trying to get him to change won't work, since he won't change unless he wants to. Leaving him alone won't help much either, because he'll keep flirting with this girl (who has some pretty major malfunctions). Unless you're willing to let this be the status quo, it might be in your best interest to reconsider this relationship.

[fremescence]

I've said this before in this community and I will say it again

[kukla_red]

"Guys and girls usually cannot be JUST friends"

I completely disagree with this. Completely.

[osani]

"Guys and girls usually cannot be JUST friends"

Usually is key here. I agree with fremescence. Besides the fact that they are not JUST friends and have already admitted interest in each other, there is no way they can put all that aside and now be JUST friends. No way.

I think he is being just as disrespectful as this girl if he continues that way.

[autumncheshcat]

I don't think telling a girl that they look "so fucking hot" counts as just generally flirty behavior, especially if it was just randomly. Maybe it's just me, but while I'll tell my friends they look gorgeous/hot/good/whatever, it's usually not my guy friends, and if I do tell them that, I phrase it in a platonic way. Flirty generally means stuff that can be construed as sexual but isn't necessarily. This is pretty blatant hitting-on. I'd definitely converse with him, and if he doesn't get it...I'd reconsider the relationship.

[cheesybunny]

Sounds sorta fishy

[skakitty]

Uh, "you look so fucking hot" doesn't sound like harmless flirting to me. If my boyfriend said that to anyone, it'd be over. Then again I wouldn't tell any of my male friends they look hot.