Jealousy, insecurity

[upthesurfpunks]

I'm Sarah and I've been a member of this community for a while but this is my first time posting a question.

Type your cut contents here.I've been going out with my boyfriend, Kyle, for about three months now. For the last two weeks, he's been in Tennessee, and I'm supposed to see him today. He's told me that he loves me, how much he misses me, etc

Comments

[missjecka]

I think that the fact he hasn't blatantly told you that you're beautiful doesn't mean anything.

What you should talk to him about is why he shows more affection to online friends and their photos than he does to you. That is suspicious and that is what would bother me most.

Next time, don't send him a vague text message like you did. He probably didn't respond because... I mean... I wouldn't know how to respond to a text like that, especially with someone I've only been with for a few months.

So, try to open up your communication a bit, and not be so vague. Nobody - male or female - is a mind-reader.

Good luck!

[nz_taniwha]

Give him time, as well. Telling your girlfriend she's beautiful is I think quite a personal and lovely thing. Perhaps the right moment hasn't struck him yet. DO encourage him by giving him compliments too, so then he may perhaps realise how important compliments are to you. Try a "you look gorgeous in that shirt" or "I think your hair looks really great today." If he sees you giving him compliments on his looks then he might grow in confidence to return some to you. It's a lot easier to mention in passing that an unknown girl is "fucking hot" than it would be to genuinely tell your girlfriend she's beautiful, I imagine.

[bluhairedmonky]

I would totally be pissed about the comments he left to the other girl. I think that's bullshit, and you should call him out on it.

[xhollydayx]

I think that you have every right to be upset. It could be his own personality - or maybe it's easier to give compliments not in person? I have some severe insecurity issues, and this would bother me a lot. As someone else suggested, try giving him a few compliments.

Personally,I have a hard time accepting compliments. My SO will tell me that I'm hot or whatever, and I'll be like "nooooo" so he doesn't give me a lot of compliments. Some days I have better confidence and it's okay. One time my SO blatantly checked out someone else in front of me (he had been drinking, but STILL) and I said something. He explained that he might look, but he would still rather go home with me. Then he went on about how I was much better looking than that girl (nice save, honey).

I would be honest and bring it up with your boyfriend. Tell him that it's not so much him not complimenting you (not that you would mind...) but that it's the other people.

[fede]

Perhaps he thinks there is a big difference between telling someone that they are beautiful and telling them that they're hot.

You just need to bring it to his attention.