Jealousy, insecurity

[upthesurfpunks]

I'm Sarah and I've been a member of this community for a while but this is my first time posting a question.

Type your cut contents here.I've been going out with my boyfriend, Kyle, for about three months now. For the last two weeks, he's been in Tennessee, and I'm supposed to see him today. He's told me that he loves me, how much he misses me, etc

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[inside_my_skin]

I'd be pissed off, and I'd probably tell him if those girls were so hot, he can go eff off with them.

Then again, that's just me.

[inside_my_skin]

To continue, and actually write something of value, does your boyfriend ever compliment you? Does he always make comments about how you could be "better" or things you should change? That's not healthy.

I think you should talk to your boyfriend, and let him know that the comments he made on his myspace hurt you.

[upthesurfpunks]

thank you for your replies, everyone. I did call him out on it when he came up to see me yesterday-- he kinda made a gaping sort of fish-face and just said "i'm sorry?" and couldn't really explain himself, just that apparently him telling the other girl that she was hot "didn't mean anything." He apologized for upsetting me, and a while later told me that he did really find me attractive... perhaps to just dig himself out of a hole.

i'm giving him a second chance, but if something like this happens again, i'm definitely gettin' rid of him.

[skakitty]

Yea, I would be concerned if three months into the relationship, he hasn't stopped complimenting other girls, assuming it was a recent comment.

In any case, judging by your icon, you're gorgeous. So at least you know you're WORTH the compliments!

[trapped_room]

Internet personality can be very different from r/l personality. Many people find it easier to be flirtatious and outgoing with people that they feel they will never meet in real life. In the mind it is meaningless and thrilling because this is not something that they feel they could do in there real life. This maybe the case in your situation. It being a new relationship and all I think he is probably looking for the right situation and right moment to tell you how exactly he feels. But i encourage you to make that easy for him to share. Men usually don't open up at that level if they feel there might be even a chance of rejection. So work with him to get to that level.