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fredijean in datinandrelatin

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Jun 18, 2007 15:26

My first posting to this place, and boy do I need the help. There should be a book for this sort of thing (there probably is).

( Let's just be friends. )

high school, flirting, attraction, friends

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dayglow June 19 2007, 06:51:38 UTC

Ah, the dreaded 'let's just be friends'. Well, things seemed to be going just fine beforehand so I don't see anything wrong with returning to your normal behavior. It'll probably be a weird and slightly avoidant situation for a few days, but things will settle down within a few weeks. If he keeps acting weird about it (or tells you to stop flirting) then tone things down, but harmless flirtation is fairly common in male-female friendships (platonic or no). And although technically it's 'okay' to talk about other guys since you were rejected, I would probably refrain, at least until the awkward period settles. Mostly because even if he isn't interested in you, if you start going off about another guy he might say, 'Hey, I thought you were interested in ME' and get all butt-hurt, silly as it may be.

fredijean June 19 2007, 20:38:13 UTC

Thanks everyone for the help.. yeah, I'm going to just try to be me. We have plans to hang out with some friends, and I just hope things aren't too awkward.

But I think it's funny you mentioned me bringing up another guy. We were talking online yesterday (trying to ignore the awkwardness), and I made a reference to another boy who I was very interested in. He was like, "I thought you were over him?" And then we stopped talking for awhile. Weird how that works out.

missjecka June 19 2007, 12:13:33 UTC

I'd recommend following his lead. If he goes back to being all flirty, then that must be his definition of "just friends". Go with it.

everyytime June 19 2007, 13:56:02 UTC

I can get that because I've been going through something like that. As said, follow his lead, try to act as normal as you can and do the same things that you have in the past. He made his choice and you definately are allowed to go for other guys. I don't think that there are even any set guidelines for these things...

luminate June 19 2007, 13:58:31 UTC

I just hope that you guys can remain as good as friends as before. I would say just try to be yourself -- whatever that entailed before the news -- and see where that gets you ( ... )