I'm not going to say a whole lot about weight loss or fat shaming here. I just want to document my body is changing. It never has changed before and I don't know what to say about it.
I always wondered if I was alone in this thought. It really rubs me the wrong way when people comment on whether it seems that I've lost/gained weight. It's kinda like... well, I live in my body so probably I noticed and don't need you to point it out. If what you're really getting at is "hey you look good" then probably just say that.
Is it really just the guilt factor that motivates you? I expect that I would feel a lot better mentally if I could actually push myself to go back to the gym regularly but I just can't ever seem to get into the routine and it's discouraging.
Yeah... But at the same time, if I got my hair cut, despite the fact that I know full well that I went and got a haircut (paid for it myself and everything!), I would want people to comment on it. Comment on the haircut specifically. Even if it weren't flattering. And I don't even need to put any effort into getting a haircut.
If I'd actually put work into improving myself in any way, I would hope that my friends would notice and acknowledge both the changes and the work involved.
If my motivation weren't actually to improve myself, but I'd changed anyway, I would also want my friends to be supportive of me, and I'm also not convinced I would take it as a slight against my past self that they were showing me that support.
I was initially just going to ask how much you were lifting, but I wasn't sure if the weight on that particular bar was yours. For some reason I thought that would be awkward?
And I assumed you posted the picture not because changing your body was necessary or necessarily good, and you were seeking validation, but because any time parts of you change, it is interesting. Interesting things are worth sharing with friends.
Besides, it's neat to have a record of these things. It's sometimes hard to tell that anything has changed unless you have some memory aid to compare it against, like this picture.
Haha weight and body image is such a minefield. Thanks, that's my squat rack set up and its 110.
I didn't mean to direct any of my comment towards you, I just really and honestly am trying to get out of my head and into the fit-body mind connection or whatever the fuck it is.
God damn, there's so much more to fitness than just doing it.
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Is it really just the guilt factor that motivates you? I expect that I would feel a lot better mentally if I could actually push myself to go back to the gym regularly but I just can't ever seem to get into the routine and it's discouraging.
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If I'd actually put work into improving myself in any way, I would hope that my friends would notice and acknowledge both the changes and the work involved.
If my motivation weren't actually to improve myself, but I'd changed anyway, I would also want my friends to be supportive of me, and I'm also not convinced I would take it as a slight against my past self that they were showing me that support.
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And I assumed you posted the picture not because changing your body was necessary or necessarily good, and you were seeking validation, but because any time parts of you change, it is interesting. Interesting things are worth sharing with friends.
Besides, it's neat to have a record of these things. It's sometimes hard to tell that anything has changed unless you have some memory aid to compare it against, like this picture.
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I didn't mean to direct any of my comment towards you, I just really and honestly am trying to get out of my head and into the fit-body mind connection or whatever the fuck it is.
God damn, there's so much more to fitness than just doing it.
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