I'm not going to say a whole lot about weight loss or fat shaming here. I just want to document my body is changing. It never has changed before and I don't know what to say about it.
I always wondered if I was alone in this thought. It really rubs me the wrong way when people comment on whether it seems that I've lost/gained weight. It's kinda like... well, I live in my body so probably I noticed and don't need you to point it out. If what you're really getting at is "hey you look good" then probably just say that.
Is it really just the guilt factor that motivates you? I expect that I would feel a lot better mentally if I could actually push myself to go back to the gym regularly but I just can't ever seem to get into the routine and it's discouraging.
Yeah... But at the same time, if I got my hair cut, despite the fact that I know full well that I went and got a haircut (paid for it myself and everything!), I would want people to comment on it. Comment on the haircut specifically. Even if it weren't flattering. And I don't even need to put any effort into getting a haircut.
If I'd actually put work into improving myself in any way, I would hope that my friends would notice and acknowledge both the changes and the work involved.
If my motivation weren't actually to improve myself, but I'd changed anyway, I would also want my friends to be supportive of me, and I'm also not convinced I would take it as a slight against my past self that they were showing me that support.
It makes me uncomfortable in the same way saying "hey you got a hair cut" would make me uncomfortable... if you're trying to say my hair looks nice that's great but unless you phrase it that way it feels negative. I dunno, maybe it's not rational.
Plus I think there's a difference between a friend starting a discussion about it/offering support and an acquaintance/coworker doing the same. Personally it feels strange when people who don't really know me comment on my body or allude to what I may or may not have been doing with it.
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Is it really just the guilt factor that motivates you? I expect that I would feel a lot better mentally if I could actually push myself to go back to the gym regularly but I just can't ever seem to get into the routine and it's discouraging.
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If I'd actually put work into improving myself in any way, I would hope that my friends would notice and acknowledge both the changes and the work involved.
If my motivation weren't actually to improve myself, but I'd changed anyway, I would also want my friends to be supportive of me, and I'm also not convinced I would take it as a slight against my past self that they were showing me that support.
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Plus I think there's a difference between a friend starting a discussion about it/offering support and an acquaintance/coworker doing the same. Personally it feels strange when people who don't really know me comment on my body or allude to what I may or may not have been doing with it.
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