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[crimsonplum]

It never happens when I'm expecting it to. It's always insidious, a shock, out of the clear blue nowhere. I think that's because I spend so much time doing everything I can to guard against it, so my instincts usually tell me when I'm not safe enough to let my guard down

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[agirlnamedluna]

That person is absolutely awful, she is probably trying to put you down to let her own light shine. I hope she gets found out before she can do any more harm.
I'm sorry you had to go through that <3

[crimsonplum]

Thanks, I appreciate it (and I agree). I think I handled it OK, and writing about it helped. What's worse? It was a male coworker...some people.

[stagger_lee77]

you are better than me, but i think my hothead setting is constantly on "nuclear meltdown."

[crimsonplum]

I wouldn't say "better than you" at all! More "I like my job," "religious people run the company," and "didn't have anybody to hold my earrings." :)

In my mind, I slapped the shit out of him and then slapped him for shitting. Ha!

[adoptedwriter]

I hate it when people butt in. AW

[crimsonplum]

Yes indeed. He needed an MYOB refresher. :)

[catwomon]

This i a great piece! So many people need to read and take it in. There are so many things we can't know about someone when we make a comment, throw a look, or do something else we have no business doing. You have reminded us, at least in this forum, that everyone has a story and if we don't know what it is, we have very few things to say except for maybe, "Hello, how are you?" and meaning it.

[crimsonplum]

Thank you! The older I get, the more likely I am to stop and think about that, in both directions. What others think of me is none of my business - and they have a private story too. Though when things like this happen, it's hard to be charitable!

[reckless_blues]

Whhhhyyy do people act as if everyone around them (in particular women) has a moral and spiritual responsibility to be thin? And not even beautiful, exactly, but specifically, thin, and thin according to very modern standards. I can't get my head around it, and the more I think about it, the more disturbing it gets.

I like fat, I think it is the prettiest tissue under a microscope.

[crimsonplum]

Fat CAN be awesome. :) I struggle with the way my body feels all the time; it took a lot of work and a lot of love (from inside and out) to accept how it looks at any given time.

I felt like this was, in part, concern trolling; people like this always pathologize fat, see it as a problem to fix. It's a problem of privilege, a lack of real scientific understanding, and a misshapen idea of what it really means to look out for your fellow humans.

And most of all, just flat-out rude! Nobody has time for that ;)