Comments | coraljune: the dilemma of opening up

coraljune

the dilemma of opening up

Jan 02, 2007 23:14

I've been told that I don't get very personal (very often) in here. When I do, I usually keep it vague enough to be factually useless despite the emotional TMI. I tend to write about things that happen in my life or in the world, I post memes, or I ask questions of my readers to get away with not actually having to say anything. Some of my posts ( Read more... )

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earlburt January 6 2007, 18:57:30 UTC

I've been mulling this over a couple days now. Here's my best shot ( ... )

coraljune January 8 2007, 15:26:02 UTC

Re issue #2: Given the disclaimer and universal truth that nobody's perfect, I am much closer to "perfect" with my patients than I am in real life. Funny thing, that. For instance, in the rest of my life I hate confrontation. I avoid it, I try to smooth it over, I get ridiculously nervous about even the potential for it. (But I'm getting better. Maybe at a snail's pace, but I'm getting better.) But, as a therapist I pwn confrontation. I do it with my clients, I help them practice it for application in their lives, and I am confident about it. It's weird. I guess maybe it's harder for me to remember that the rest of the world doesn't need me to be as perfect. I'm working on that one, too.

Re issue #1: What, you mean they can't read my mind? ;->

earlburt January 8 2007, 15:49:20 UTC

If they loved you enough they could. Alas...

Why can't everyone else just be as perceptive and generous as we are?

garbo77 January 7 2007, 10:10:55 UTC

I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I'll post something personal and then delete it because it's just too 'out there' for me. I wish I could be a bit more personal, but I like to stick with funny things or movie/celebrity things because my journal is more about the stuff I find annoying or interesting - not really about my personal life ( ... )

coraljune January 8 2007, 15:32:59 UTC

Gah! I know! Every now and then you'll refer to your having changed your mind about an entry you'd written - a "I deleted that last post..." or something - and I'll wish I had been refreshing my friends page at just the right moment to catch it. But I understand; I've done the same thing. I would love to read more about your life though, or some of those personal things that you reconsider and delete. Have you thought about using the friends-only or custom filter options? That gets around the problem of not knowing who is reading - a question that I wonder about fairly often.

idmmx January 8 2007, 18:24:00 UTC

When I get married, will you be my maid of honor?

coraljune January 8 2007, 18:36:15 UTC

Are you serious? I mean, Absolutely, I would be honored! Whenever the time comes, ask me again if you're sure.

idmmx January 9 2007, 06:42:33 UTC

:) (You really would?)

It will be a while yet, but yes I'm sure, when the time comes. *I* would be honored.

coraljune January 9 2007, 18:39:03 UTC

Well, first things first, eh? ;->

draiguisge January 21 2007, 21:00:47 UTC

I tend to perceive non-response as disinterest (read: apathy, rejection), which stings.

I know exactly what you mean.