Tell me I'm doing okay, please?

[cifarelli]

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[spiritchaser1]

It's understandable to feel exhausted and frustrated and depressed right now.I don't care what anyone else may think, mothering a newborn sounds like the toughest (most important) job ever!
But from your descriptions, you're doing a great job adjusting to this tiny, beautiful constantly needy creature. From what I've heard, this part slows down and gets better, and the sleep deprivation just makes everything harder until then. You will push through this and things will get better, it's just hard to see right now.
wow he's getting so big!
Take care. *HUG*

[cifarelli]

Thank you.

Have I mentioned that I think synisterchyck is really lucky to have you as a friend? You may decide (have decided?) to never have kids of your own, but you seem like a great support person for your friends who do. They are blessed. :)

[dbroussa]

Your concerns are perfectly normal and I hate to tell you but they are never really going to go away. You are going to worry for the rest of your life if you are doing the right thing for Corwin. And its going to be about everything...I know that I worry constantly about that with Rhi Rhi and Alastair. Its part of what makes you a good parent. Its not easy, but honestly you are doing spectacularly from what I can tell. He is handsome and you are bending over backwards to take care of him. The only real trick is to love your kids. If you do that you won't be going wrong. Just remember not to loose yourself in the process.

Take care, and you can always call Moonsinger or I if you need to chat.

[cifarelli]

Thank you.

There are some days when the fact that I love him is the only thing that helps me hang in there. I love him and would never do anything intentionally to hurt him, no matter how badly he makes me want to throw him across the room some days :P

[noricum]

*hugs* I get home pretty early most days... around 4. Want a phone call?

Would it help if you read to him? Since he's still really young, you could read books that you enjoy (rather than picture books)... thus benefitting you both. ;)

Babies come in all shapes and sizes, and baby clothes don't. You just happen to have the long, skinny type that the baby clothes don't take into account. (Does the kimono fit yet? Or is it the wrong dimensions?)

*hugs*

[cifarelli]

Got your message tonight; sorry I wasn't able to get to the phone when you called. Do you have my cell phone number? If not let me know and I'll email it to you. I tend to keep that next to me so I can answer it when I'm stuck in the chair with the baby (I can't really get up and answer the phone on the other side of the room when he's nursing or sleeping on me).

I do read to him sometimes, always from whatever book I'm reading (sadly, I have been working on the same book since I was in labor with him at the hospital -- holding a book and turning pages isn't all that easy when you have to have one hand on the baby at all times -- though I am finally just about done with it). Unfortunately, he only tolerates my reading for short periods of time, so I never get very far at one time.

I still haven't tried the kimono. Guess I should try and do that soon. I'm really not sure from looking at it how it will fit (or not).

[martinhesselius]

*Hug*
Am glad things are going well!

[cifarelli]

Well, sorta...did you read the part where I was depressed and second-guessing myself? ;)

But yes, things are going well. I just have days where I fear they are not.

[martinhesselius]

*Hug*
Yah, I was focusing on the positive!

[onefishclappin]

1) By the fact that you are worrying about it shows that you are a good parent

[cifarelli]

Oh God....yes, I am very very thankful for #2! :)

12) I have contemplated asking Andrew to do some of the bill-paying stuff, but finances have been my realm for our entire marriage (we are both happier that way) so I don't really want to give it up, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't want to take it over. So far I'm managing to get everything taken care of, so no need to try to change things yet.

Thank you so much for the support. It is very very helpful! :)

[onefishclappin]

I never let David take over bill paying, but I did make him sit down with my in my office a few nights and help me organize, file, etc etc for the new year; which I don't normally need with with. If it makes you feel better, the mother of an 11 month old who I work with said that she has a 11 month stack of filing that hasn't happened. And before the baby was born, she was as anal as you or me in the filing realm.
I hope I'm helpful, rather than annoying. It's nice having someone else going through new parenting with us.

[onefishclappin]

Wow, I just re-read this and am amazed at how many grammatical & typo mistakes I made. Sorry about that... see the comment on your other post - no sleep is my excuse!