Comments | chloejaz: What is the nature of love?

chloejaz

What is the nature of love?

Dec 09, 2006 22:36

How do you recognise love? Is there "10 sure signs that you're in love" published somewhere? Or is it a feeling, a belief that you just have, something beyond words? How does one know they're in love? And is it always mutual, does it happen at the same time for both people, is it really forever ( Read more... )

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dytyna December 10 2006, 05:28:40 UTC

i think thats the ultimate quesion really ( ... )

chloejaz December 10 2006, 05:42:28 UTC

Love is not an adjective... I like that.

I agree that it's overused. I think it should be saved and cherished, so when you tell someone you love them, it really... impacts.

And I have to say, to you especially... Before this, I'd read your journal sometimes and wish I had what you have - someone to serve, the control, the feelings you have for you Master, someone who challenges you and gives you what you need. I was so happy for you (and enjoyed living vicariously lol), but jealous, too. But now, I'm really appreciative of your journal as I think a lot of our views on slavery are the same, and its just great to know that I'm not alone.

(p.s. I think you'll like my Master! lol We should have you and yours to dinner sometime!)

falcngrl December 10 2006, 22:39:08 UTC

I say I love you fairly easily. But the way I say it and what it means changes with each person.

I have quoted an old song to citizenfemme I love you more today than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow. and it holds very true for us. I can say I love her today and I know that in a month it is going to feel more intense, and different than it does now. The feelings that I have for her change (deepen) on a regular basis.

I think citizenfemme loved me long before she said it. Why? Because of her actions, the looks in her eye, the intensity between us when we were together. When she said it though, and I knew she was going to at just about the point she did it, it added another layer. It deepended the connection for me.

I wouldn't worry so much about whether you love him, or whether what you feel is love. It's so soon, perhaps too soon by some standards to even be thinking in those terms. Just let yourself enjoy what is growing between you.

Txo

citizenfemme December 10 2006, 23:24:00 UTC

Reminds me of someone I knew who believed that love was a verb. I'm not entirely sure of that. After all, I can be bursting with love, but too scared to do anything about it, right?

falcngrl December 11 2006, 01:13:29 UTC

Isn't it/can't it be a verb?

Tanya

citizenfemme December 11 2006, 04:03:02 UTC

Well, it can be, but I was speaking specifically about the position that it's only a verb. I think that's what the referred person meant. Either way, it's lost in some semantic honey that's pissing me off.

citizenfemme December 10 2006, 23:19:37 UTC

In my experience, feelings of love either are or aren't there - there is no "should I" or "shouldn't I", only feeling. I've been in situations where I rationally knew I should not fall in love with someone (e.g., they were "emotionally unavailable", or were even smart and said from the beginning that they did not want, and therefore chose not to allow the development of, a romantic relationship), but I did anyways. I don't think I'll love them forever, but my first two intense, long-lasting loves I think I'll always have.

It's a realization feeling, really. Like _myown_ said that she knew she loved Hirop when she felt like she wanted to share all these experiences with him, and I know that feeling. I realized I loved Falcngrl over a series of moments where I had to assess my own walls. It varies, but in my experience it doesn't come out of intense contemplation. It just is or isn't, because often times, the feelings you have to rationalize out of yourself are difficult to maintain - exceptions being important realizations, or whatever ( ... )