Family...

[bishquett]

So after a couple of months where I didn't speak to my parents for very personal reasons, I finally met them up for lunch and we talked things through. As of this moment, my parents now know that I am child-free

Comments

[mewmew]

"The pullout method worked for me!" Yeah, so that's why you and your sister exist? *plus any siblings you may not have mentioned, if it's not just you two*

I have to agree, your parents/family are nuts. I like how she seems to think you owe her grandkids. Even if you had a kid, doesn't mean she'd ever see it. My niece doesn't know my mom and I because my brother never brings her over or invites us to his place.

[bishquett]

It's just my sister and me; she said she started to use the pull out method AFTER my sister was born. The worst thing is that every cousin, niece and so on and so forth have had kids and shit. BEFORE they got married. I happen to be a rarity in the family but now since I'm settled and all that shit, I should start popping out kids ASAP.

It's annoying for sure.

[miss_october]

I'm soooo lucky. I'm almost 32 and my parents have never questioned me about having kids. Once when I was a teen, my mom made a comment about me having a daughter someday, I said, "What?! I'm not having kids!" and there has never been any mention of it since.

Of course, my brother has 3 kids, so that probably helps.

[mystery_mole]

Clearly, you hold more value to them as a baby factory than an individual. How sad. Your mom sounds incredibly ignorant. Not that it surprises me. Some of my family can be the same way. It's a great tragedy supposedly that I have not opened my womb for the harvest.

[elialshadowpine]

o.O

Your folks are nuts.

I'm in a similar situation with my husband. We've talked about it, and while he likes the idea of having kids in the abstract, we are totally not in a good place for it. He knows I don't want them, too, and has said he won't press the issue (and never has; it's always been me that's brought it up, because I worry).

[bishquett]

Eh, I'd rather just teach and help the hubby build his karate dojo than have kids. Hubby would like a little tyke but he's ready to falcon punch me if I get preggers anytime soon.

He has two conditions:

1. It better be his and
2. It better be planned.

[barsanddrums]

Please tell me your mom is seeking therapy. I'm not even going to add a "no offense" to that one. Seriously, when you tell someone abortions are ok but adoptions are not something is very, very wrong with them.

[jarethrake]

Honestly, that's kind of how I feel - that if I were to be pregnant, I'd rather abort it, than have someone else raise it. I know that's selfish and irrational; I'd never suggest it to anyone else, and do as much as I can to make sure I'm never in a situation to make that decision.

[barsanddrums]

Well I'm a guy so I can't reproduce so abortion vs letting someone else raise it isn't a choice I'll ever have to make, but to the second part of that yeah I concur. It's not the kind of thing you say to another human being as a generalized statement like you would say if you cut yourself slap a bandaid on it. The two things are NOT universals.

[bishquett]

Ugh, No. And don't worry about that "No offense" thing. My parents are insane. When my husband, then fiance, was leaving for Border Patrol, they forced us to get married even though we were already planning our wedding and buying rings.

They thought he was going to go up and run off with some whore or something. -_-.

But as I said, we were committed to getting married so, whatever.