My friends are mostly just starting to have kids-- except the religious ones, who have of course no overlap with the gay ones.
Except there are a lot of religious queer people over there. I'm not saying that has overlap with your religious friends, but. :)
Insurance and visitation rights and taxes and custody and adoption and protection in the case of divorce and all of the sundry other legal issues are apretty big part of it, especially for people who've been together for quite some time. You can take care of all that stuff legally if you're not married, but it's a pain, especially if there's kids. And the insurance thing becomes more an issue if there's kids, too, because if one person wants to stay home with them, then you suddenly don't have seperate insurance.
So it depends on the couple involved. Some couples want the societal recognition, some of those who don't care about that want the legal rights. It all depends.
Except there are a lot of religious queer people over there. I'm not saying that has overlap with your religious friends, but. :)
Oh, sure! ... I should have been more specific about that "of course" -- the vast majority of my religious real-life friends, especially the ones who have been having kids for years and years now, are Mormon. And... if they were queer they certainly wouldn't be telling me, unless we were way closer. (Interestingly enough, all my best friends are atheists :) This probably says something about me that I don't want to think about too much
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On the other hand, I suppose it's the ultra-practical way to go...
And for a lot of folks, marriage is an ultrapractical thing. If you think you might split up later, it's easier to make sure that you get your half of the house's value if you can get legally divorced. It depresses me too, to think of marriage like that, but well. :)
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Except there are a lot of religious queer people over there. I'm not saying that has overlap with your religious friends, but. :)
Insurance and visitation rights and taxes and custody and adoption and protection in the case of divorce and all of the sundry other legal issues are apretty big part of it, especially for people who've been together for quite some time. You can take care of all that stuff legally if you're not married, but it's a pain, especially if there's kids. And the insurance thing becomes more an issue if there's kids, too, because if one person wants to stay home with them, then you suddenly don't have seperate insurance.
So it depends on the couple involved. Some couples want the societal recognition, some of those who don't care about that want the legal rights. It all depends.
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Oh, sure! ... I should have been more specific about that "of course" -- the vast majority of my religious real-life friends, especially the ones who have been having kids for years and years now, are Mormon. And... if they were queer they certainly wouldn't be telling me, unless we were way closer. (Interestingly enough, all my best friends are atheists :) This probably says something about me that I don't want to think about too much ( ... )
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And for a lot of folks, marriage is an ultrapractical thing. If you think you might split up later, it's easier to make sure that you get your half of the house's value if you can get legally divorced. It depresses me too, to think of marriage like that, but well. :)
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