Except there are a lot of religious queer people over there. I'm not saying that has overlap with your religious friends, but. :)
Oh, sure! ... I should have been more specific about that "of course" -- the vast majority of my religious real-life friends, especially the ones who have been having kids for years and years now, are Mormon. And... if they were queer they certainly wouldn't be telling me, unless we were way closer. (Interestingly enough, all my best friends are atheists :) This probably says something about me that I don't want to think about too much...)
Thanks for the comments about kids. As I said, I'm way too young (maturity-wise, that is, hey, I just started living with a guy for the first time...) to have thought through those practical issues. In particular, haven't given any thought to kids except "wow, they are sure cute, would like to have some someday, but eh what a mess!"
A couple of random things: -We actually mentioned once or twice not getting married legally because of taxes and IRA's and that kind of thing. We do rather worse being married in the eyes of the law. I don't think our pastor would have gone for it, though. -And I see your point about the fine legalities of custody, visitation rights, etc., although anyone who is agitating for marriage because they want proper divorce rights scares me a bit. On the other hand, I suppose it's the ultra-practical way to go...
On the other hand, I suppose it's the ultra-practical way to go...
And for a lot of folks, marriage is an ultrapractical thing. If you think you might split up later, it's easier to make sure that you get your half of the house's value if you can get legally divorced. It depresses me too, to think of marriage like that, but well. :)
Oh, sure! ... I should have been more specific about that "of course" -- the vast majority of my religious real-life friends, especially the ones who have been having kids for years and years now, are Mormon. And... if they were queer they certainly wouldn't be telling me, unless we were way closer. (Interestingly enough, all my best friends are atheists :) This probably says something about me that I don't want to think about too much...)
Thanks for the comments about kids. As I said, I'm way too young (maturity-wise, that is, hey, I just started living with a guy for the first time...) to have thought through those practical issues. In particular, haven't given any thought to kids except "wow, they are sure cute, would like to have some someday, but eh what a mess!"
A couple of random things: -We actually mentioned once or twice not getting married legally because of taxes and IRA's and that kind of thing. We do rather worse being married in the eyes of the law. I don't think our pastor would have gone for it, though. -And I see your point about the fine legalities of custody, visitation rights, etc., although anyone who is agitating for marriage because they want proper divorce rights scares me a bit. On the other hand, I suppose it's the ultra-practical way to go...
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And for a lot of folks, marriage is an ultrapractical thing. If you think you might split up later, it's easier to make sure that you get your half of the house's value if you can get legally divorced. It depresses me too, to think of marriage like that, but well. :)
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