Comments | chachatnp: My son is driving me crazy!

chachatnp

My son is driving me crazy!

Aug 28, 2007 22:54

I am so confused as to what method of parenting and disapline I need to use with my son that it's scaring me half to death. Dane, I suspect is acting like a typical 14 yr. old. But we don't live in a typical household and he doesn't seem to understand that. I set house rules, and give him incentives for doing his chores...or I should say CHORE. I ( Read more... )

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aaah the terrors of Adolescence n1a1t2h8a8n August 29 2007, 04:56:37 UTC

It wasn't that long ago that I was 14 and defiant. 14 was like my worst age. Well I had fun but i definitely had the worst relationship with my mom at that age.
I remember similar stories. I don't know Dane.
I wish I could hop on over and help you out. Your class seems to be good- you could ask people there for help.
You are right to ask for help around the house. You are doing lots of good things.

Love you Lots- I hope things work out

Re: aaah the terrors of Adolescence chachatnp August 29 2007, 22:25:31 UTC

Thanks for vote of confidence! I need it! Love ya back, Char :)

magentatnp August 29 2007, 17:45:05 UTC

Hi Sweety,

I think you are doing the right things and I am sad that Dane is putting you through this. Unfortunately, he is a teenager and he will be defiant...especially since he is the "man" of the house and thinks he knows what is best. I don't blame you for being nervous about his threats but I wouldn't react to his threats.I believe that responding with a negative towards a negative will only make it worse. Call me anytime. Miss ya!

E

Thanks for the advice :) chachatnp August 29 2007, 22:23:32 UTC

Just learned in class today that there is a lot of argueing and making up during adolesence and it's normal. I guess I can't remember back that far. lol.

Re: Thanks for the advice :) magentatnp August 29 2007, 23:41:15 UTC

LOL. Of course there is. I remember when I used to scream at my mom...can you imagine me screaming? :)

Dane has had alot of changes in the last few years and one of them is being a teenager. My little brother is 25 and still doesn't do chores. :) Don't take any threats personally - just ignore them and it will make him realize that you are calling his bluff :)

:::hugs::

E

Hi it's Jenn from TNPs organizedinsane August 30 2007, 04:26:25 UTC

Mike said you were lookin' for advice. Unfortunately, as much as it SUCKS right now, you're dealing with a typical 14 year old boy. No parent is perfect and from what little I understand of the situation, you're doing an incredible job. At this point, I would continue the discipline you've been doing, stop giving him allowance, as well as the wonderful "you're grounded" technique. Yeah, he's thinking life's unfair and we're all out to get him but this too shall pass. Does he have any like....father-esque figures to cling to? Does he do stuff outside of school? I'm thinkin' to maybe look into a Big Brothers program, they're very good at working with kids this age ( ... )