My eldest sister is an ice queen and a bitch. She will never love anyone as much as she loves herself. She has always wiped off touches and cringed from hugs since I was very small. It took me 35 years to come to terms with that and the last six since I accepted that fact made my life a whole lot easier. It's not me, it's her. Just...you're not alone in your feelings and it is very much okay for you to figure out a way to let her go to save your own emotional well-being. ((((HUGS))))
My mother has a sister like this. Nothing anyone else in the family ever does has ever been good enough or impressive enough for her. Scarcely veiled insults have always been the subject of any conversation with her. We weren't ever invited to her house, and the one time I was there with my grandparents, I was effectively made to stand on a designated bit of carpet like a drippy puppy
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It's not you. It's your sister being a self-righteous, self-important bitch. Just because you're related to someone doesn't mean that they have the right to treat you like shit, and it doesn't mean that you owe them anything. Your sister has something against you and it is not your fault. You never know - she may be jealous of you, of something that she perceives that you have that she doesn't (freedom? no kids?).
It is ok to distance yourself from someone who is toxic. I keep my mother at arms' length for similar reasons. Shared DNA does not create an obligation beyond that which a parent has for their child, which is to raise them to adulthood in a responsible, loving manner. Beyond that - all bets are off.
I have a younger sister I haven't really ever gotten along with. When our mother moved out of state (we live together, the sis and I) I tried super hard to step up and be my sister's friend. I really tried hard to make it work, even though she was still mean at times
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It's her, not you. People like her often go around with the biggest chips on their shoulder and have a sense of entitlement. They think the world owes them something and when you make the terrible mistake of trying to get them to see they're loved and valued, they blow up on you and make you feel less than dirt. Yeah I speak from experience. I've had a score of bad relationships with my family and my friends. It takes two to tango but in this case? Screw her. Just live your life and cut her off. Let her wake up on her own. Then of course that's always the chance she'll never realize what she's done but you'll have done your part.
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It is ok to distance yourself from someone who is toxic. I keep my mother at arms' length for similar reasons. Shared DNA does not create an obligation beyond that which a parent has for their child, which is to raise them to adulthood in a responsible, loving manner. Beyond that - all bets are off.
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