Dear god! Sorry, I'm currently having trouble controlling myself, and am shaking and twitching, because that victim blaming really got to me. It feels personal, like she's calling me a monster because a man I trusted took advantage of me.
I need to leave and have a coffee. I'll write a thoughtful response as soon as I can stop shaking.
Yes. I know that reading Lauren Myracle's blog I came across somebody who was monitoring their 15-year-old's TV, internet, phone, magazine, books, etc, habits, and all I could think of was my friend Rose, who was unvoluntarily outed as a lesbian at age 15 because her parents read her emails. She was 22 when I got to know her, and she never wrote anything down. Ever.
I think that people who shelter their kids to this point will do nothing but create a barrier; their kids will lie and lie and LIE, never tell their parents anythign real and find out everything the hard way.
This is actually exactly what is illustrated in TM, and it's an important lesson to learn. I don't know if I'll ever have children, but I do hope others who do have a better relationship with their parents than I do with mine. Which is to say that while I read everything I could get my hands on, including grown up books (the Clan of the Cave Bear was one of my favourites), I was sheltered in other ways.
I am appalled by this. As a mother of a 10 year old, I would never censor anything that she wants to read. Admittedly, she's quite a mature little thing, but anything that she reads we discuss. Anything. She recently expressed an interest in reading Twilight (which I ranted on previously), and I said yes with some discussion first and an expectation of more discussion later. I'm not saying that I think she'll be reading Tender Morsels anytime soon, but if she wants to, again there will be discussion. Sometimes knowledge and information can be more easily conveyed by reading about it in fiction works.
Hee yes I recommend that with Tender Morsels *you* read it first. And of course I assume that there's a big difference between how you handle your daughter's reading at 10 and at 15 at which point, it's not really the Mum's business any more :D
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I need to leave and have a coffee. I'll write a thoughtful response as soon as I can stop shaking.
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Won't somebody think of the children!
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I think that people who shelter their kids to this point will do nothing but create a barrier; their kids will lie and lie and LIE, never tell their parents anythign real and find out everything the hard way.
This is actually exactly what is illustrated in TM, and it's an important lesson to learn. I don't know if I'll ever have children, but I do hope others who do have a better relationship with their parents than I do with mine. Which is to say that while I read everything I could get my hands on, including grown up books (the Clan of the Cave Bear was one of my favourites), I was sheltered in other ways.
Man, parenting is HARD.
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She recently expressed an interest in reading Twilight (which I ranted on previously), and I said yes with some discussion first and an expectation of more discussion later.
I'm not saying that I think she'll be reading Tender Morsels anytime soon, but if she wants to, again there will be discussion.
Sometimes knowledge and information can be more easily conveyed by reading about it in fiction works.
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