Some women have hated me right off. Some women I have felt threatened by. And some people I'm uncomfortable with, regard less of gender - just because I'm so bloody socially inept. And of course, they're then uncomfortable with me, because I'm so uncomfortable with them. Hardly surprising
( ... )
I wonder how much we will be influenced by having more female authors, directors, producers. That does give me hope. The insanity of these bewildering, self-perpetuating cycles being rejected. New modes of behaviour and interaction. Learning new ways to be - it's an exciting prospect.
Yes! Things are improving! And there is lots that we can do. I do try and go out of my way to signal to other women that I am no threat.
Of course, these days it happens much less :D The worst time was probably from teenage time to thirty-ish? I do think it's important to call others out when they judge other women, without even knowing them.
Every time a woman says about another "That bitch!" it's good to ask them, what makes you say that? Why do you need to say that? Who is she to you? Do you even know her?
Ahaha the way you describe yourself is hilarious. You sound like a riot. :). I have also noticed that very troubling trend, though I see it a lot in real life too. I really don't understand the concept of instantly hating someone just because they slept/are sleeping with someone you once fancied. Good god all that hatred and paranoia must be exhausting.
Well, women are mostly being conditioned into this pattern. It's not necessarily an integral part of us :D.
Er, I hope.
Additionally a lot of character traits that are okay for men are not okay for women. Open competitiveness between women is frowned upon.
I remember a male friend of mine, who used to complain a lot about a common friend. Then one day, I had an argument with a female friend, and when I talked to him about it, he just said: "Ugh! Can't you chicks just kiss and make up?"
Men have arguments. Women have catfights.
That whole "You stole my boyfriend!" cliche is really manifested in popmusic. Turn up MTV, and wait twenty minutes, if you can stand it, and there will be that song that'll say something like "Bitch, he's MINE! Back off!" or something.
I don't have cable, so I can't turn on MTV. And I think I'm saner for that :P Listening to the radio and horrid pop music nowadays is enough.
You're right though. We get into stupid arguments, albeit over different things, but they're still arguments with friends. I think the difference that people perceive is that men are competitive because they're trying to prove themselves to get a chick (horseshit, for me at least), and when women get competitive, everyone gets a bit uncomfortable because they think she's going to take over EVERYTHING.
Either that, or go crazy. I have seen some batshit crazy jealous women and gay men, hah.
Comments 7
And some people I'm uncomfortable with, regard less of gender - just because I'm so bloody socially inept. And of course, they're then uncomfortable with me, because I'm so uncomfortable with them. Hardly surprising ( ... )
Reply
Reply
Of course, these days it happens much less :D The worst time was probably from teenage time to thirty-ish? I do think it's important to call others out when they judge other women, without even knowing them.
Every time a woman says about another "That bitch!" it's good to ask them, what makes you say that? Why do you need to say that? Who is she to you? Do you even know her?
Reply
Reply
Reply
Er, I hope.
Additionally a lot of character traits that are okay for men are not okay for women. Open competitiveness between women is frowned upon.
I remember a male friend of mine, who used to complain a lot about a common friend. Then one day, I had an argument with a female friend, and when I talked to him about it, he just said: "Ugh! Can't you chicks just kiss and make up?"
Men have arguments. Women have catfights.
That whole "You stole my boyfriend!" cliche is really manifested in popmusic. Turn up MTV, and wait twenty minutes, if you can stand it, and there will be that song that'll say something like "Bitch, he's MINE! Back off!" or something.
O.o
Reply
You're right though. We get into stupid arguments, albeit over different things, but they're still arguments with friends. I think the difference that people perceive is that men are competitive because they're trying to prove themselves to get a chick (horseshit, for me at least), and when women get competitive, everyone gets a bit uncomfortable because they think she's going to take over EVERYTHING.
Either that, or go crazy. I have seen some batshit crazy jealous women and gay men, hah.
Reply
Leave a comment