Comments | burgunder: Talking to Myself in 1999

burgunder

Talking to Myself in 1999

Jan 26, 2003 12:17

( The day I stopped feeling responsible for the world )

idealism, original prose

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geekalpha January 26 2003, 20:52:17 UTC

Interesting observations that I have made that I think you might benifit from ( ... )

burgunder January 26 2003, 21:54:08 UTC

When I say "I feel sad" vs. "I feel responsible", the word "feel" means two very different things for me ( ... )

thanos_of_titan January 26 2003, 21:55:26 UTC

"-No matter how much effort is expended, one's own feelings cannot be changed through intellectual pursuit or direct will ( ... )

geekalpha January 27 2003, 20:48:35 UTC

From previous: "-No matter how much effort is expended, one's own feelings cannot be changed through intellectual pursuit or direct will."

My meaning on this is from direct will. Examples:

"It is silly of me to feel this way." Doesn't work.
"I am going to be happy now." May work temporarily, but the core issue is not addressed. This is just another 'stuffing' maneuver with different window-dressing.
"I will from now on believe that it is okay for X to happen." May work as you described if you have really gotten at the root cause, otherwise, this is a more complex version of emotion-stuffing that will result in the mood-swings I was referring to.

My emotions are directly controlled by my beliefs.I think 'indirectly controlled' is really more accurate, but I certainly agree with you on this in most cases. If my expectations are X and Y occurs, I am disappointed and possibly angry. If I reset my expectations and accept that I cannot control the outcome whether it by X or Y then I will not be so disappointed in a specific case ( ... )

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