the school did let him down. some kids kill themselves when the people who were supposed to protect them fail...and apparently some kids loose their effing minds.
it goes to show one more reason for schools to not let one more victim go unaddressed and un-aided. it also goes to show the important yet prevalent oversight that bully, bullied and bystander are all victims of a sick social dance which we as parents and teachers and community members have a responsibility to learn about and heal.
every teacher and staff member ESPECIALLY principles should have mandatory conflict resolution training. should also sign a contract like the doctor's hypocratic oath to report any illegal activity and should be completely banned from further service by the school board if found not reporting.
Every teacher and staff member ESPECIALLY principles should have mandatory conflict resolution training. should also sign a contract like the doctor's hypocratic oath to report any illegal activity and should be completely banned from further service by the school board if found not reporting.I agree
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If past bullying was the motive and he hadn't gotten help for it, though, it sort of makes sense, even though that doesn't justify the shootings. From what I've heard, he was getting help when he was in high school at least. I imagine if he didn't, he would've targeted the high school he went to rather than the elementary school since his experiences in high school would've been more recent than that in elementary school.
Then again, when I had homicidal thoughts of going after the people that tormented me, I had been in high school by that point when the majority of the bullying (let alone, the worst of it) happened while I was in elementary school. I never imagined going after people that had shit to do with me being bullied. I would've gone straight after those that did bully me. What is extremely disturbing with me was had I actually acted on those thoughts, I would've made it look like an accident rather than a homicide so I wouldn't have been suspected.
Yes what he did was wrong but I can't help but think that if he got help when it happened, maybe those kids who died would still be alive.I'm on the fence about that mainly because my teachers did get involve when I got bullied, and I got bullied the worst in elementary school like this shooter did. Hell, the school had acted very fast when I accidentally mentioned in a note to the school's counselor that I was thinking about committing suicide (this was the last year I was suicidal) and they called my parents about it. My parents got me into counseling because suicide happened on my dad's side before (something I didn't know beforehand). The school even had me help out with the principle's daughter the last couple days of school so I wouldn't have to be in the same classroom as my bullies were. While all this halted the suicidal thoughts, the anger I had towards the bullies didn't and I eventually wanted to kill them (not many irl knows that about me because I'm highly ashamed of it and I don't think I will ever forgive myself for
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but there's that other part of me that can't help but think, "Why didn't anyone help him when he was bullied?"
I don't get it.I have to wonder about some things though. For example, his mom obviously tried to help him when he got bullying. Yet, she was one of his victims. Why kill your own mother, who tried to help you out when you got bullied? Then again, it's mentioned that he wasn't happy about her showing up to his school and watching over him to make sure no one messed with him. Of course, he probably thought she was making things worse for him when she did that
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I can't clink on the link for some reason, but if this comes from a Daily Mail article, you ought to know that it's probably not true. The Daily Mail is a tabloid along the same lines of credibility as the National Enquirer.
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it goes to show one more reason for schools to not let one more victim go unaddressed and un-aided. it also goes to show the important yet prevalent oversight that bully, bullied and bystander are all victims of a sick social dance which we as parents and teachers and community members have a responsibility to learn about and heal.
every teacher and staff member ESPECIALLY principles should have mandatory conflict resolution training. should also sign a contract like the doctor's hypocratic oath to report any illegal activity and should be completely banned from further service by the school board if found not reporting.
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From what I've heard, he was getting help when he was in high school at least. I imagine if he didn't, he would've targeted the high school he went to rather than the elementary school since his experiences in high school would've been more recent than that in elementary school.
Then again, when I had homicidal thoughts of going after the people that tormented me, I had been in high school by that point when the majority of the bullying (let alone, the worst of it) happened while I was in elementary school. I never imagined going after people that had shit to do with me being bullied. I would've gone straight after those that did bully me. What is extremely disturbing with me was had I actually acted on those thoughts, I would've made it look like an accident rather than a homicide so I wouldn't have been suspected.
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I don't get it.I have to wonder about some things though. For example, his mom obviously tried to help him when he got bullying. Yet, she was one of his victims. Why kill your own mother, who tried to help you out when you got bullied? Then again, it's mentioned that he wasn't happy about her showing up to his school and watching over him to make sure no one messed with him. Of course, he probably thought she was making things worse for him when she did that ( ... )
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