Sorry guys I gotta get this out. I'll read everybody's pages after I promise. This whole post is gonna be a rant about Shannon but not solely about her, I'm just using her as a jumping off point
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That doesn't sound good at all... :S I don't even know what to tell you. I can imagine that divorce in itself is a traumatic experience, and that maybe she somehow thinks this guy will be able to "anchor" her. Maybe she's just looking to feel safe and loved? I obviously don't know Shannon so I can't say anything...
Also, loving yourself = not as easy as it sounds.
But I really hope Shannon doesn't hook up with this guy, especially not so soon after getting separation papers. I can imagine it's tempting as hell, but it'll probably be very destructive... I can't imagine that being a healthy relationship. Also, the guy sounds like a total creep, with finding her work number and all.
THANKYOU! Sane person lol. Yeah the only thing I can think is maybe she just wants someone who is the complete opposite of Brian(her current husband) and that's what this guy is. But that doesn't necessarily mean he's a good guy.
Oh I def understand. I don mean to talk about it like it's a walk in the park. It is most definitely not easy at all. Took me about four years of a lot of work.
That seems to be the way things are going >.< They haven't actually got the seperation papers yet...She doesn't even wanna be with the guy she has liked forever now cause of this guy. =/ THANKYOU AGAIN sane person. Everyone I have talked to about it has told me it's creepy. I'm so glad I'm not alone on that.
My friends lol. can't get through a day without one of em going crazy on me. =P
1. Yeah. I think her response is pretty much "yeah fuck you legal system I'm not staying with this asshole." 2.Yeah I tried to tell her that. Especially cause Brian said after she moved out he'd still like pay for stuff for her and junk. I doubt he'll be feeling quite so generous when he finds out about this new guy. 3.LOL yeah. Well i mean "marry" is a strong word. She didn't actually say anything about "marry" but she did say he wanted her to move to tennesee with him...CREEPTASTIC NUMERO UNO (known a girl a week and you want her to move with you...) and she was talking about how they would date long distance for nine months and then when he comes back they'd continue a relationship. Which in my mind is basically marriage lol. 4. Yeah i think she's just scared to be single for real cause I mean she hasn't been since she was fourteen.
It makes me happy that you've already commented lol =P
yeah we searched. In MD you gotta have the papers to legally be seperated for six months and you HAVE to be legally seperated for six months. They purposefully make it the biggest headache in the world lol.
She thought it was creepy when I told her it was creepy. I think she really does know that he's not normal but I think she's in a deep state of denial.
That's really helpful =] I think I really will try to just sneak things in. If that doesn't work...well I guess people just gotta make their own mistakes. It's always worked for me. well...most of the time....
I appreciate the fifty cents =] Denial is an awefully powerful thing. It's hard to fight. I think I'll try and take it one step at a time. At least she's getting rid of the dead beat husband. That alone took ALOT of convincing >.<
The same ting happened with my mother. Just as she kickec out my father (years way back when) almost immediately she met someone. They were together for about 5 years, i think, on and off, but he was no different than my father.
Both were abusive..
I think the problem is jumping into the unknown scares people and they need someone to hold onto so they don't feel the need to do it.
yeah I completely see that happening. She has already admitted to me that he's controlling and Brian's controlling tendencies are one of the things she hates most. It's realyl hard to try and think of what to say that doesn't sound like I'm telling her what to do or judging her though. >.<
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Also, loving yourself = not as easy as it sounds.
But I really hope Shannon doesn't hook up with this guy, especially not so soon after getting separation papers. I can imagine it's tempting as hell, but it'll probably be very destructive... I can't imagine that being a healthy relationship. Also, the guy sounds like a total creep, with finding her work number and all.
=/ I really hope things turn out okay. :S
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Oh I def understand. I don mean to talk about it like it's a walk in the park. It is most definitely not easy at all. Took me about four years of a lot of work.
That seems to be the way things are going >.< They haven't actually got the seperation papers yet...She doesn't even wanna be with the guy she has liked forever now cause of this guy. =/ THANKYOU AGAIN sane person. Everyone I have talked to about it has told me it's creepy. I'm so glad I'm not alone on that.
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1. Yeah. I think her response is pretty much "yeah fuck you legal system I'm not staying with this asshole."
2.Yeah I tried to tell her that. Especially cause Brian said after she moved out he'd still like pay for stuff for her and junk. I doubt he'll be feeling quite so generous when he finds out about this new guy.
3.LOL yeah. Well i mean "marry" is a strong word. She didn't actually say anything about "marry" but she did say he wanted her to move to tennesee with him...CREEPTASTIC NUMERO UNO (known a girl a week and you want her to move with you...) and she was talking about how they would date long distance for nine months and then when he comes back they'd continue a relationship. Which in my mind is basically marriage lol.
4. Yeah i think she's just scared to be single for real cause I mean she hasn't been since she was fourteen.
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yeah we searched. In MD you gotta have the papers to legally be seperated for six months and you HAVE to be legally seperated for six months. They purposefully make it the biggest headache in the world lol.
She thought it was creepy when I told her it was creepy. I think she really does know that he's not normal but I think she's in a deep state of denial.
That's really helpful =] I think I really will try to just sneak things in. If that doesn't work...well I guess people just gotta make their own mistakes. It's always worked for me. well...most of the time....
I appreciate the fifty cents =] Denial is an awefully powerful thing. It's hard to fight. I think I'll try and take it one step at a time. At least she's getting rid of the dead beat husband. That alone took ALOT of convincing >.<
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The same ting happened with my mother. Just as she kickec out my father (years way back when) almost immediately she met someone. They were together for about 5 years, i think, on and off, but he was no different than my father.
Both were abusive..
I think the problem is jumping into the unknown scares people and they need someone to hold onto so they don't feel the need to do it.
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