Well, I tried…

[brickhousewench]

During my one-on-one today with the bossy lady, I finally tried to have “the talk” that I’ve been rehearsing in my head for weeks, but just haven’t had the guts to actually attempt. I’ve been wanting to talk to her for weeks about her attitude, but just wasn’t sure how receptive she might be to the conversation

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[chris_warrior]

I think most of my coworkers would think I was insane for even trying to talk about this stuff with her.

i think you hit the nail on the head here. not that *i* think you're insane, just that, well, you're alone. she definately sounds like she doesn't want to admit she's riding all of you. gad, maybe she was even told/instructed to manage that way, i dunno. but it definately sounds like she got defensive on your ass; i wouldn't say that was your imagination.

thing is, i don't think you can help her, given the power differential.

only survive her.

and if it becomes crystal clear she's impacting people's performance, the only place i could see going is up the ladder...

[brickhousewench]

If I hadn't spent so much time talking about her with my co-workers...
If I hadn't spent so much time talking about her with my therapist...
I'd probably still be assuming that I was the problem child here.

But I know I'm not. And I need to try to set some boundaries with her. Her behavior is not acceptable. And if only for my own mental health, I have to occasionally tell her that it isn't acceptable.

Words of wisdom from my therapist this week - I can either view her as a pain in the ass, or as an opportunity for growth. I laughed and said, "Or both?".

"I can either view her as a pain in the ass, or as an opportunity for growth."

[chris_warrior]

since i just encountered both in my own inbox, i'm flailing as to NOT saying "just trip her into a wall when she's not looking."

wow.

did i just type that out loud?

*sigh* seriously, this too shall pass.

right?

[temperlj]

with people like this, at least you said it and you should *document* that you said it because chances are that the next time this conversation comes up, there will be an HR person involved.

Wow, what a complete lack of impulse control she has.