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brianj34

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Aug 07, 2005 16:40

Where does it say that the perfect relationship has to be between just two people? Just thinking about things and wondering.

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arshermetica August 7 2005, 22:13:46 UTC

It doesn't.

But trust me, it's hard to point that out to people.

::Frowny face::

brianj34 August 7 2005, 22:14:50 UTC

Thanks. I think if there are three people that care about each other, it should be ok.

txkink August 8 2005, 00:59:44 UTC

I can tell you from first-hand knowledge that it's possible. I had a very loving threeway relationship for over six years...it can work

brianj34 August 8 2005, 01:01:05 UTC

Thanks for the advise. I know I wouldn't live with these two people, but that doesn't mean I can't have a great, successful relationship with them.

txkink August 8 2005, 01:07:53 UTC

Very true! The funny thing is that people were the most shocked when they found out that we all slept in the same bed...not the sexual part but just that three bears could sleep soundly in the same (large) bed...

brianj34 August 8 2005, 01:09:30 UTC

And there is not one thing wrong with that. The few friends that I have told have stated that they would never be able to share with another person but I don't have a problem with that.

sonicfire August 8 2005, 01:41:07 UTC

It is definitely all about communication babe. Making sure everyone is equal as possible. And you definitely have to keep an open mind.

brianj34 August 8 2005, 01:42:18 UTC

Thanks. I am a little nervous but I know this is what I want. Just have to take things slow.

Family. shanecub35 August 8 2005, 22:30:10 UTC

Entering into a relationship with more than yourself and one other is like beginning a new family. Communication is key and the open mindedness is more about not being defensive and allowing others to feel what they feel and not trying to control what others think. Gosh there are alot of ands in that sentence. I so can't wait to read more about your experiences.

Re: Family. brianj34 August 8 2005, 22:32:01 UTC

Thanks dude. I believe that I am ready for this, if it goes ahead and happens, just a little nervous. I just don't want to get hurt again, but what is funny is that nothing has worked before and this might actually be what does.

Re: Family. shanecub35 August 8 2005, 22:46:20 UTC

Don't guard or protect yourself. You have to practice being open. Openness is a state of mind that can be attained through small measures.

Exercise One: Take one thing at a time ... just as it is; don't add to it or take anything from it.

Re: Family. brianj34 August 8 2005, 23:03:54 UTC

OMG you sound just like D, who is one of the guys