Abortion

[starchain]

Have you ever had someone openly suggested you an abortion?

This happened to me twice today, the first one was some random lj user in a community and the second one was a close family member.

Comments

[wistfuljen]

Kind of. I had an ex tell me that if I didn't abort, he would kick the shit out of me so that I would miscarry. I ended up miscarrying anyway about a week after he said that.

[starchain]

I'm sorry this happened to you

[wistfuljen]

It's okay, that miscarriage was a blessing in disguise. I couldn't imagine all these years later (this was 13 years ago) still being tied to that fucker because of a kid.

[xsinsinx]

Exact same thing happened to me.

[farting_nora]

Yes, people need to stfu and mind their own business.

[starchain]

It was so unbelievably rude that I swear I didn't understand what she was saying, it took me a couple of minutes to fulle realize what she said.

[farting_nora]

I'm 19 (20 next month) and 17 weeks pregnant with my second, and my first is only 8 months old, so I get it a lot.

I also get people telling me that they figured out what causes it, asking how old I am and if I'm married, and telling me that only irresponsible people have kids before age 25 (and never more than one before that age!).

I hate how women basically become public property while they are pregnant. Anything you do is commented on by complete strangers.

[starchain]

I had that the first time around, everybody commenting and all that stuff, I wasn't in the mood for it and let people know. This time around since the situation is really different, much more stable for all the people involved I thought people would keep their mouths shut but turns out it doesn't work that way.

[merlyn4401]

Yes, my mother did when I got pregnant after losing an infant at 28 weeks. I respect the fact that she was worried about me (I almost died), but it was incredibly cold and cruel.

[starchain]

That must have been terrible. I hope everything worked out fine with your pregnancy.

[merlyn4401]

Oh yeah, I have three great little boys, now. :)

[scongioloso]

This happened to me too.

My Mom didn't say I should, she just said that sometimes abortion isn't the worst thing in the world.

This came when I was pregnant with #3 after having two sons born with the same heart defect and nearly dying before/during open-heart surgery. (Doctors suggested I not become pregnant again because they feared any future children would have the same disease).

FYI - my daughter was born with a perfectly healthy heart and my Mom has said many times over the last three years how she was "meant" to be here and she apologizes profusely every time the subject of being pregnant with her comes up.

Fear does weird things to people I guess.

[vdreamgoddessv]

Nope, I think it would have made me angry to have someone suggest anything really unless I was asking for their opinion.

I had someone ask if I was going the adoption route (pregnant at 18), and was a bit hurt by that, even though I know it was just because they didn't know what I would do (where I grew up we didn't know many young moms, most of our parents were late 20's early 30's when they had us so I was the odd one).

[starchain]

I got asked what I wanted to do a lot with my first pregnancy because it came during a very particular time of my life but this time around I just don't get why people would think I don't want to keep the baby

[starchain]

I may have to.
And I'll start screaming "You'll burn in hell" to everyone who says the word abortion.

[muliebrity]

No, but I've also never been pregnant.