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Gender Roles in Clothing/Accessories

Jul 04, 2007 20:14

OK, so I was reading this post and it got me thinking. For those who don't want to click the link, it's a woman whose 2 year old broke his arm and pointed to pink as the color he wanted for his cast. the woman said no because "that would've gone over real good with daddy!" and he got his second choice, neon green ( Read more... )

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float_my_fancy July 5 2007, 01:14:30 UTC

You'd let your son wear a princess dress, but not your daughter? I don't see the sense in that.

failstoexist July 5 2007, 01:23:59 UTC

i don't like ridiculous over-the-top princess stuff on anyone. i would probably try to suggest a different dress(even if it was still pink, or still frilly, or whatever) to my daughter because there are a million messages out there that she should be a little princess...but i would feel nervous about trying to encourage a boy away from what he wanted because I wouldn't want him to feel like he couldn't wear a dress. I still wouldn't bring them to shop somewhere i thought the choices were too crazily out there, but I would be even less likely to discourage a boy from wearing a particular dress because it's "too much"...just like I'd be less likely to discourage a girl from wearing too much sports stuff or whatever.

fightin_over_me July 5 2007, 01:43:30 UTC

what if all media messages aside, your daughter honestly just loves the over the top princess stuff? Would you still try to convince her to like something else? What is wrong with a little girl that WANTS to be a princess?

My mom is a HUGE tomboy and couldn't wait to have a little tomboy girl. I turned out to be the girliest girl ever.

failstoexist July 5 2007, 01:55:48 UTC

I don't know. it would depend on if she liked other things too or if she was completely one-dimensional. I can totally appreciate a sometimes-love of princess stuff...but not being able to enjoy anything else is a little creepy to me.

I would try to pick princesses for her that are better role models and show her how the princesses wear pink sometimes, but other colors other times...that some princesses wear blue, purple, green, etc. try to get some variety in there. before i threw up from all the pink.

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birdlawyer July 5 2007, 01:31:09 UTC

Dude, what's with all the pink hate around here? I love me some pink!

g0ldenr0ad July 5 2007, 01:41:27 UTC

Me too.

abattoir_blue July 5 2007, 01:45:31 UTC

I hate it because I look terrible in it, I am just too pale and pinky of tone to pull it off. It only looks nice on folks that aren't pasty. The same could be said of all the pastels, IMO.

failstoexist July 5 2007, 01:57:14 UTC

unfortunately, i look great in dark pinks. (i look bad in pastel ANYTHING, really). so i don't even have an excuse, i just hate it.

maybe because I think I look too straight as it is, and the pink only increases that. it's hard to find a girlfriend when everyone thinks you're straight when they look at you...

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g0ldenr0ad July 5 2007, 01:43:10 UTC

Isn't pink kind of in style for boys now, anyway? At least school aged boys.

I see pink on school aged boys around here all the time. I know a few boys aged 8-10 who openly admit that pink and purple are their fave colors.

rawness July 5 2007, 04:59:05 UTC

yep - teenage boys too

asouthernthing July 5 2007, 01:44:56 UTC

I think it's a crock, and personally I don't think I'd marry someone with the personality type that would get pissed over a color.

kalieris July 5 2007, 14:04:22 UTC

It's amazing, though, what you find out about your partner over seemingly insignificant stuff like that. Sometimes people are unaware of their own weird child-rearing prejudices, and things that wouldn't merit notice on other people's kids suddenly become a federal case when it's their own. My ex-h was like that. He was actually pretty open-minded about most stuff when I married him, but when First Born Son came around, he turned into his own father. Surprised the hell out of both of us, actually.

kitashla July 5 2007, 01:45:21 UTC

Er...around here pink is the IT thing with boys.

My daughter tells us we're crazy because I don't like pink and daddy would never wear pink. She keeps telling daddy that he needs to get a pink shirt because "real men wear pink". (Daddy won't wear pink because it REALLY doesn't go well with his colouring.)

I'd never restrict my kids over something stupid like that. But then again, I let my daughters dress my almost 2 year old son in dresses and laugh as he prances around in them.

Wearing a dress or the colour pink hasn't made anyone gay yet.