THAT F***ING C**T!

Jan 28, 2009 18:40

So I find out through a trusted pal that -- you remember the woman I felt was biased and thought more highly of appearance than teaching ability? Yeah, so apparently she "had a fit" about the mohawk. And, apparently, that is the reason why I have not been called back to teach. So I wasted the money on the professional wardrobe. So all this ( Read more... )

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funkbunny January 29 2009, 05:25:02 UTC
Can I ask you what you hope to accomplish by confronting her, aside from securing your own self-esteem?

You know what? you're right - she is a shallow, hollow person who clearly couldn't see talent when it sat down in front of her.

But trying to rub it in her face and make her say it to your face won't win you any friends, popularity contests, or beauty pageants.

As much as it's Not Satisfying to take the high road, I think you should stick to it. I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to bitch-slap someone or just go off on them because of something gone wrong or not the way it should - but staying on the high road has been paying off in spades lately.

Just a few cents to pick up off the ground if you want.

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bluepickle January 29 2009, 15:21:26 UTC
I'm not gonna be confrontational, but I need an excuse to show them exactly how much I've changed for the job. If it was the hair they hate, well... I CHANGED the hair. I BOUGHT new clothes. I was gonna go in under the guise of asking for my W-2, but it came in the mail the other day.

I'm giving the "benefit" of doubting that she thinks I've actually done anything to modify myself into a more professional aesthetic.

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funkbunny January 29 2009, 16:48:37 UTC
You can still go in under the guise of recieving your W2. They know they mailed it - but maybe you haven't gotten it yet (or checked your mail in a few days).

I can understand wanting to show them how much you've changed for them. I'm still hesitant about it (prolly cuz we haven't talked about it) ... it's one thing if they said "we have this dress code we need you to meet. Let's revisit this in a month" ... but they didn't. Do you really want to work for someone where you think they're constantly looking over your shoulder so to speak?

(don't get me wrong - I think the teaching is a great thing for you.)

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pabugirl January 29 2009, 16:20:18 UTC
I am encouraging Ashley to go in.

Here is why:
1. This woman set (albeit rudely) an objective for Ashley - conform to her idea of "professional"
2. She has no idea whether Ashley took that seriously, which Ashley did.

When Ashley goes in it will simply to demonstrate her enthusiasm for the position - this woman probably expects that Ash is a lazy, counter-culture loser and would refuse to change.

Really, Ash has nothing to lose and everything to gain here. If the woman sees Ash's dedication and professionalism (requesting a second interview to demonstrate as such) she might start getting ubsitute offers.

Although Ash is really angry- her intentions are good.

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jasmin_sane January 29 2009, 12:37:52 UTC
As long as you are civil and courteous about it, I would say she deserves to be confronted, or at least having to tell you outright why you haven't been called back.

On the other hand though, from how you've described this woman, it IS likely that she will just stick her nose up and give you some bullshit perfectly legal and credible explanation. What will you do if she does?

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bluepickle January 29 2009, 15:22:47 UTC
Oh, I don't expect to get called in, I just have to know if all these modifications would get my foot more securely into the door.

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gladrial January 29 2009, 19:37:06 UTC
I give two big thumbs up to your plan. However, she is undoubtedly going to give you a reason beside the truth because she'd possibly be facing legal issues if she was honest. At the same time, she'll know that you know why you're there. The opportunity to make her uncomfortable is so worth it in my opinion.

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chickiepickle January 29 2009, 19:55:10 UTC
i concur. And showing someone that you are not a lazy slacker, and you are still interested in the position, and you have taken great strides to change for the position...might do 1 or 2 things. It might make her realize she was wrong (yay!) and/or create a respect for you that will carry when she needs a sub.

On the other hand, if she truly is a bitch, she will be pissed at YOU that she was wrong about you and she will still never call. In which case you should torch the building. Figuratively. Burn the bridge. Whatever metaphor works for you.

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