That's definitely a rough choice. Being on the acquaintance side of things, but knowing the battle you've fought with cancer and the battle you continue to fight with depression, I wish you only the best of luck. I certainly don't have answers, but I can listen if you need an ear and a shoulder to cry on. I commend your decision, for you, and even more so for David.
Thank you. That means a lot. I know you've definitely had more than your share of hard things to deal with and you continue to deal with the stress of wondering for your daughter. Knowing that cancer could come back, or a different one could come about, is a very real threat. I'm starting to realize that even the best intentioned people just don't get it unless they've dealt with cancer in themselves or someone very close to them. Sure, I'm healthy now. But that could change any day. That constant fear drains someone. I try my damnedest to maintain as much optimism as I can in my life but sometimes it all just gets to be too much and I need to reevaluate everything. That's where I got recently and I needed to look at where the pessimism was coming from so I could remedy it. I still have a very long way to go that will, at some point, involve me seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist/something to sort out the craziness in my brain but I'm trying to do what I can for now.
I think you're absolutely right. Illness or not, life is too short to allow other people to drag you down.
And the first step is realizing that it *is* something we have a choice in. Too many people go through life, letting it just happen to them. It's true that there are some things (like others' behavior) that we don't have control over, but we *can* decide whether we keep toxic people (yes, even family) or situations in our lives.
I have had "friends" like you describe. Those are usually the types of people who are never satisfied, even when you do make them a priority. And, you're right, they often don't seem to notice when you distance yourself (which, in my experience, has been a bit of a relief).
Thank you for the support. It's incredibly hard for me to, essentially, walk away from friendships but I know it's necessary. Something happened about a month ago that left me very angry with someone I considered a best friend. But, the more I thought about it all and analyzed everything, the more I realized she wasn't the friend I thought she was. She would only call when she needed something. If I needed something, she had some excuse as to why she couldn't get together. Every. Single. Time. That's not a friend and that's definitely not someone I should be putting so much faith into
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Wow...that *is* tough, and I'm sorry to read that someone's giving you a hard time over a thing that, essentially, comes down to self-defense. It's kind of funny, though, when people instantly confirm you made the right decision, with things like that. It has a way of eliminating the guilt.
This is a very brave thing you're doing. Keep up the good work :D
Thank you. I've spent the morning alternating between extreme happiness (like when I awoke to David smiling and laughing at me) to extreme sadness (like when I finally had the courage to open the email that was sent to me last night with more fake apoligies
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And the first step is realizing that it *is* something we have a choice in. Too many people go through life, letting it just happen to them. It's true that there are some things (like others' behavior) that we don't have control over, but we *can* decide whether we keep toxic people (yes, even family) or situations in our lives.
I have had "friends" like you describe. Those are usually the types of people who are never satisfied, even when you do make them a priority. And, you're right, they often don't seem to notice when you distance yourself (which, in my experience, has been a bit of a relief).
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This is a very brave thing you're doing. Keep up the good work :D
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