Comments | bloodrebel333: chained

bloodrebel333

chained

Apr 30, 2011 18:47

He took my key. Today I went to the bathroom one time and showered one time. Sometime during those two occasions he went into my room, found my keys in my purse, and took out my door key. My key chain works with a screw system, so he had to unscrew it and find the right key. I only have a garage key now and he disconnects the garage whenever HE ( Read more... )

dp, moving, rl

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kat_lair April 30 2011, 17:56:50 UTC

That's ridiculous, how can the police not be able to do something? Come with you and demand the key back? Then if he kicks off he'll hopefully get into trouble.

Call the local tabloid and offer to sell your story? Maybe the threat of publicity will get to him?

I just really wish I could help in a concrete way. *hugs*

bloodrebel333 April 30 2011, 22:56:40 UTC

The police refused to come, told me to go there with someone else and to call if there was the slightest hint of a threat, but not before. So I texted him about him reconnecting the garage for me so I could come in (so I could get an idea of his mood, how he planned to react, from afar) and he acted like he had no clue what I was talking about. But anyway, I'm home now and I haven't seen him, so that's good!

Perhaps calling the tabloid would help. I've put some of it on Facebook already and I could get local media attention because of my professional status, but - alsadslkfna; I'm worried about privacy and things. Maybe - I'll have to think about it. I'm worried about how it'll affect the rest of my life.

guardantares April 30 2011, 18:17:59 UTC

Oh hon, I know this is scary and confusing, but listen to me when I say this: This is not your fault. You did nothing to deserve it. Be angry. Do not let that awful man turn you into a victim. Get pissed off and let your anger carry you for a little while. If he's not allowed to keep you out, then tell the police he's keeping you out. It's all well and good to say 'He's not allowed to' but surly it's permissible for them to act when he goes ahead and does it anyway.

My advice: if you're locked out, get the police to make him let you in long enough to get your remaining belongings. Tell them "My landlord is illegally locking me out of my rental premises and is holding my belongings." Then stay with your boyfriend until you can find a new place. Your landlord sounds like he has an honest-to-god personality disorder and he's not going to get better, only worse. The best thing you can do is remove yourself from a toxic environment.

bloodrebel333 April 30 2011, 23:10:52 UTC

Thank you. It helps.

The police said he's not allowed to lock me out, I'm allowed to get in however I can, but they can only do something when he actually does something that threatens me. They told me to go there with someone else and use the doorbell or call his cellphone. They said they might agre to come and mediate, but they would not help me to get in and they would not question him about it, because it's a civil procedure (so you have to go to a judge to deal with it, the police has no authority in civil cases). It's like when he shuts down internet/tv or refuses to return my deposit: he's not allowed to, but I can't call the police for it.

ariadneelda April 30 2011, 19:07:37 UTC

JFC. I have no words. :( Seconding the comment by guardantares above, and *hugs* I wish I could do something except being angry on your behalf.

bloodrebel333 April 30 2011, 22:57:22 UTC

Thank you. *hugs* Hugs help, always!

lavinialavender April 30 2011, 19:28:43 UTC

Yes, what guardantares said. And will you lose your income if it's only for a few days at your parents', or can you stay with the Vampire right now? Come on, Rachel, you don't have to live with this.

bloodrebel333 April 30 2011, 23:27:55 UTC

I'm pretty sure that he can delete me from his address. The government needs to know where I reside, and I have to have an official residency for the income. I can't officially return to my parents, even for a few days, and my boyfriend's mother is panicking even at the thought of her son returning there officially because her income will be lowered, too. I can pay her for it, but she's old and I'm afraid she'll be too busy worrying to realise it.

calliopeia17 April 30 2011, 19:33:57 UTC

I'm so sorry this is happening- remember that it's not your fault- this guy is just crazy. *big hugs* Don't ever feel like his behavior reflects on you in any way.

If he's actually locked you out of the premises with your stuff still inside, I'm pretty sure the police can do something, since that would be, you know, THEFT. I also think taking your key in the first place is probably stealing, to be honest. Keep trying- and remember that it's good that you're getting away from this guy- he seems seriously disturbed.

*more hugs*

bloodrebel333 April 30 2011, 23:21:54 UTC

The police said he's not allowed to lock me out, I'm allowed to get in however I can, but they can only do something when he actually does something that threatens me. They told me to go there with someone else and use the doorbell or call him on his cellphone. They said they might agre to come and mediate, but they could not open the door for me and they could not do anything to him about it, because it's a civil procedure (so you have to go to a judge to deal with it, the police has no authority in civil cases). It's like when he shuts down internet/tv or refuses to return my deposit: he's not allowed to, but I can't call the police for it ( ... )

bloodrebel333 April 30 2011, 23:23:03 UTC

He's so bloody impulsive and unpredictable. He has a mortgage, he has two children he has to take care of, he could lose everything over this. Why is he being so crazy?